Why is life this way

[Anonymous]

Recently divorced. Love of my life whom I have not spoken to for 8 years while married just got back in touch and we have been emailing. Today he tells me he just today got really bad news and he has terminal lung cancer and will be dead in 3 years. Of course he was undergoing biopsy at the time he reached out. Way to bury the lede.

[Anonymous]

Well he doesn't know you were dreaming of a future together. Not his fault.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, um, what a bummer for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well he doesn't know you were dreaming of a future together. Not his fault.

Of course it’s not his fault! I’m just lamenting bc I love him.

[Anonymous]

Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he reached out because he needed emotional support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?

She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.

[Anonymous]

So love him with the time you have left. At least this is an option for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?

She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.

Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So love him with the time you have left. At least this is an option for you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?

She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.

Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.

So love him from afar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ what a self-absorbed loser you are. I seriously hope this is a troll.

Since when does grieving the terminal illness of someone you love make you a self absorbed loser?

She doesn’t sound like she’s grieving the illness so much as the fact that he ‘wasted’ her time by reeling her back in only to tell her he was dying.

Well it’s complicated. He is married. We had an affair a decade ago that I ended for both of our sakes and did not speak to him again until he tracked me down a week ago. I had / have no intention of resuming the affair which was absolutely devastating for me at the time. So it’s frustrating bc even though I do love him I know it is not my place to support him even though I want to and he obviously needs it.

Yeah it's so hard to be an AP who can't support her dyin AP because he has a wife. Life really suck sometimes OP.

[Anonymous]

I’m sure he would love to get some action despite his illness. Just cause you’re dying doesn’t mean you don’t still have needs. Call him right now and give him a great BJ OP, the man doesn’t have much time.

[Anonymous]

So no one told you life was gonna be this way?