50th birthday yesterday- no gifts

[Anonymous]

I always do the cakes and gifts for everyone for their birthdays (3 kids) but when it comes to mine it is minimal at best. Some years I just tell my husband what to buy but this year has been very difficult with severe health problems in my side of the family so now nothing. We had cake at my ill brothers house yesterday and that was it. Birthdays seem like my sad day not my happy day.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, but Happy Birthday from us!

[Anonymous]

Your DH is a jerk, OP. No ifs, ands, or buts.

[Anonymous]

I wish just once a DH would post on here and explain WTF he is thinking when he ignores his wife’s birthday.

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday OP.

I’m sorry. Your DH and kids are selfish.

[Anonymous]

From now on, tell him exactly what you want him to do.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, op!! Happy birthday from DCUM peeps!

Treat yourself to something nice this week.

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday!

I remember being in second grade and us 3 kids not doing anything. My mom cried in her bedroom. My sister (high schooler) put a candle in a hostess cupcake and knocked on the door. That made it worse. It stuck with me. I think its ok to let them know youre hurt

[Anonymous]

I text my kids 3 weeks before my birthday.

I also tell them what is an acceptable gift. When they disappoint me I explain why and what would have been acceptable.I’m still teaching them.

It’s been about 4 -7 years since they were old enough (16) to do it themselves.

They get better every yesr. It’s a process.

Yes. The feeling of disappointment is real and understandable but I don’t take it personally.

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday OP. Take yourself out for a fabulous breakfast and get a pedicure or something else you enjoy. You deserve it!

[Anonymous]

Happy Birthday, OP! I hope the year ahead is better for you. Get yourself something!

My birthday is this week - I have to specifically request something that's very easy to buy if I want something from DH and I didn't do that this year. We are at least going out to dinner. DD (23) will text me and so will DS (19) after someone clues him in.

[Anonymous]

It seems PPs are missing the fact that this was for your big 5-0. Not just any birthday but 50th!

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. It was the same here until I got involved in planning my birthday with my family. My 40th was a hurtful nothing burger, so I made the reservations myself for my 50th. I've given up on Mother's Day though.

[Anonymous]

Happy birthday Op! Sorry your husband is bad at gifting. My is horrible too. I wish it didn't bother me, but it still hurts. Warm hugs to you.

[Anonymous]

What are you waiting for OP? Buy yourself something nice! Something you can look at and makes you smile.

I’d pretend that for me it’s a picture of my family or something, but really, what about like a wallet from Tiffany?