Another super Y question

[Anonymous]

My son had his first practice yesterday, and he is a bit discouraged. During the regular season, he plays for one club, on their middle team. He tried out for and was selected for Super Y with another club, He was the weakest player at the pratice - the other boys on the Super Y team are really good. He's concerned about being able to succeed. He was one of the better players on his regular team, and isn't used to being a weaker link on the team. Is this typical for Super Y, and what advice can I give my son?

[Anonymous]

My son is also playing Super Y with a different club than his regular season club. He said that most kids at practice are from the same club and already know each other, so the social dynamics might be a little intimidating for “the new kid” at first; that might be bothering your son more so than the raw skill level.

In terms of playing with more advanced players, I tell my son that the way you get better is by playing with and against better players. Competition makes you better.

And lastly, I’d try to get him to view the summer season as more for fun and development, with less pressure to win than the regular season. While some other kids are at home playing vidya games, he’s going to be improving his game over the summer and will come back stronger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son had his first practice yesterday, and he is a bit discouraged. During the regular season, he plays for one club, on their middle team. He tried out for and was selected for Super Y with another club, He was the weakest player at the pratice - the other boys on the Super Y team are really good. He's concerned about being able to succeed. He was one of the better players on his regular team, and isn't used to being a weaker link on the team. Is this typical for Super Y, and what advice can I give my son?

We are in this situation, my ds will be in the bottom 1/3 for talent. He is nervous but I told him it is a great situation!

I dont think the goal is to succeed. Put less pressure on himself and take it as an opportunity to improve and learn new skills from them!

You wouldn't want to be the weakest on your regular season team so summer is great. Practicing and playing with better kids is the perfect opportunity to improve. And they probably have a great coach also. Enjoy the summer!

[Anonymous]

My DS played SuperY for a couple years, the club made a point to have players mixed from different level teams as well as outside players. It worked well and the kids had a good time. As other posters said it’s actually great for your DS to be around better players so he can be pushed a bit to improve.

[Anonymous]

You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.

Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.

Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?

If you think you are push yourself harder to a place where 1. your not a starter yet 2. you struggle to keep up at training.

[Anonymous]

You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.


Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?



If you think you are push yourself harder to a place where 1. your not a starter yet 2. you struggle to keep up at training.

I mean, I don't think you want to be in that position. I think you want to be solidly in the middle for the regular season. But, being towards the bottom for a super Y summer team is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.


Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?



If you think you are push yourself harder to a place where 1. your not a starter yet 2. you struggle to keep up at training.

I mean, I don't think you want to be in that position. I think you want to be solidly in the middle for the regular season. But, being towards the bottom for a super Y summer team is fine.

Staying happily in the middle is a cowardly way to look at things. Dont be a coward push yourself to br your best you can be anytime of year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.


Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?



If you think you are push yourself harder to a place where 1. your not a starter yet 2. you struggle to keep up at training.

I mean, I don't think you want to be in that position. I think you want to be solidly in the middle for the regular season. But, being towards the bottom for a super Y summer team is fine.

Staying happily in the middle is a cowardly way to look at things. Dont be a coward push yourself to br your best you can be anytime of year.

Well you don't want to be the worst player... the one where people inwardly groan every time your son goes out on the field, the one the other kids don't pass to because he always loses the ball, the one with the least playing time during games. Some kids may be able to overcome this and get better, but I think confidence and contributing positively to your team help with growth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You never want to be the best on your team. If you are your playing at too low of a level. You only get better playing with better players. Confidence should never be gained from success against lesser opponents. You're supposed to be better than them. True confidence is gained when you succeed at a higher level than you are accustomed to.


Yeah - how do you know if you’re the best on your team though?



If you think you are push yourself harder to a place where 1. your not a starter yet 2. you struggle to keep up at training.

I mean, I don't think you want to be in that position. I think you want to be solidly in the middle for the regular season. But, being towards the bottom for a super Y summer team is fine.

Oh come on, it's now cowardly -- there are probably fewer Super Y teams, so the placement will be less precise. That's my naive understanding anyway. That means that you will have some kids who are going to need to practice/play with other kids well above their skill level. For a summer activity, that's not a bad thing. My younger boys are better soccer player than my oldest son, because they were forced to play against him and the neighborhood kids who were much better than them, from a young age.

Staying happily in the middle is a cowardly way to look at things. Dont be a coward push yourself to br your best you can be anytime of year.

[Anonymous]

Super Y is no more than a summer camp with games over the weekend and it lasts a couple of months. If a team succeeds then it makes the finals in Florida, totally optional. Stop the bashing around it.

[Anonymous]

Always push yourself out of your comfort zone . Your confidence comes from knowing you are working harder and more than anyone else. not just playing with people for success. Its about the details mastering the basics any pushing fear away by knowing I'm prepared to take on anyone thats in front of me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son had his first practice yesterday, and he is a bit discouraged. During the regular season, he plays for one club, on their middle team. He tried out for and was selected for Super Y with another club, He was the weakest player at the pratice - the other boys on the Super Y team are really good. He's concerned about being able to succeed. He was one of the better players on his regular team, and isn't used to being a weaker link on the team. Is this typical for Super Y, and what advice can I give my son?

Jesus, most people complain about the Super Y team being bad overall. Quit your complaining and understand that it is a better opportunity to play with better kids for the summer than a team of hacks.

[Anonymous]

My son had his first practice yesterday, and he is a bit discouraged. During the regular season, he plays for one club, on their middle team. He tried out for and was selected for Super Y with another club, He was the weakest player at the pratice - the other boys on the Super Y team are really good. He's concerned about being able to succeed. He was one of the better players on his regular team, and isn't used to being a weaker link on the team. Is this typical for Super Y, and what advice can I give my son?


Jesus, most people complain about the Super Y team being bad overall. Quit your complaining and understand that it is a better opportunity to play with better kids for the summer than a team of hacks.

Wow, I am not OP, but as someone who was the worst player on her basketball team as a kid, I can definitely relate to feeling uncomfortable in that situation at the beginning. It's normal, and you press through, but it is not unreasonable for the kid to feel bad about it for a few practices. Geez.