so sad

[Anonymous]

I tested at home today, 6 days after my transfer, and it was a stark white negative. From everything I've read online, I know that in all likelihood this means it did not work, even though they tell you not to test before the blood test, so just feeling very hopeless and sad. We only have one more frozen embryo (got 2 total, this was my first IVF cycle). I don't know how people have the strength to go through this all multiple times..

[Anonymous]

I am sorry for you OP. I was in your shoes. The second transfer worked. Wishing you strength and luck.

[Anonymous]

Big hugs, op. I know how much it sucks.

[Anonymous]

It’s awful, OP. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP. It’s painful.

[Anonymous]

It’s really really hard. It gets easier as you do it more, but that first transfer especially is the hardest because you are so hopeful. Do something nice for yourself. Hugs.

I did 5 cycles and 3 transfers to get my baby boy. It did get easier each time, I promise.

[Anonymous]

It’s so hard, please take care of yourself. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry that you are suffering. Just hang in there and try again if it doesn’t work out this time.

FYI, I had 3 transfers for my first child and 2 for my second. They are now 24 and 22. I never think about how hard it was to conceive them except when I read a post like yours. Just remember that you have the privilege of using technology that was unavailable a generation ago. That is a true blessing. If it doesn’t work out, then at least you know that you tried everything available. That can be a great comfort in times of despair.

[Anonymous]

thanks everyone for your kind words and perspectives <3

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but don't give up just yet. you never know.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry. Some women like myself have had very long fertility journeys. I truly hope you don't, but many of us somehow get the strength to keep going. Sending you a hug and well wishes for clarity on how to move forward. You might discover you are stronger than you knew.