16 yo DS and his facial hair

[Anonymous]

DS has patches of hair, patches of fizz and patches of bare skin. It doesn’t look very good, and I wish he’d shave it but he wants to grow a beard (I don’t think he can grow a full beard just yet). I keep my mouth shut, but anyone else’s kid have patchy, unkempt looking facial hair?

[Anonymous]

Patches of *fuzz

[Anonymous]

Totally normal for this age! I'm not being snarky or holier-than-thou but remember it means that his hormones and development are right on track and that's a good thing. All part of letting our kids have autonomy!

[Anonymous]

Buy him a Braun electric and tell him the gentlemen in your home are clean shaven.

[Anonymous]

Don't say a word until he gets ready to leave for college, and then explain that it looks much better to have a clean look - that is, if he can grow a bread or mustache, that's fine, but to shave off the fuzz so that the lines are nice and distinct.

But right now his hair is still extremely fine and you shouldn't push him to do things he doesn't want. There are no important social repercussions, and if the person he fancies shies away, he will have to decide himself what he wants to do.

[Anonymous]

beard, not bread

[Anonymous]

My DS isn't allowed to have facial hair per school rules. He has an electric razor and he only needs to shave his mustache.

[Anonymous]

tell him the gentlemen in your home are clean shaven

Ick

[Anonymous]

I have no issues telling my kid he needs to shave.

[Anonymous]

OP, his first girlfriend will help him with this -- beard or no beard. Meanwhile, if it's really as bad as you say, it's a natural babe repellant. Which has it's own advantages.

[Anonymous]

We told my 16 year old to shave. His dad helped him the first time. I continue to tell him to shave when he gets fuzzy. Why is this an issue? Just communicate with your child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Don't say a word until he gets ready to leave for college, and then explain that it looks much better to have a clean look - that is, if he can grow a bread or mustache, that's fine, but to shave off the fuzz so that the lines are nice and distinct.

But right now his hair is still extremely fine and you shouldn't push him to do things he doesn't want. There are no important social repercussions, and if the person he fancies shies away, he will have to decide himself what he wants to do.

+1

Mine currently has the random facial hair plus this awful mop on his head that drives me crazy. I'll sometimes offer to make him a haircut appointment, but he always declines. Other than having to look at him in his unkempt state, it doe not effect me and I feel like nagging him about it will only cause an unneeded negative reaction. Until cicadas start climbing out of the nest on his head, or his work tells him he needs to clean himself up, I let it go. Like someone else said, the next time a girl enters the picture she'll take care of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy him a Braun electric and tell him the gentlemen in your home are clean shaven.

+1

[Anonymous]

My DS was the same way. We all told him it looked horrible. He finally got fed up with us one day and yelled, 'My body, my choice!". We shut up after that because, really, what could we say to that? He's now 18 and shaves on a regular basis (still doesn't need to do it every day).

[Anonymous]

Even if he wants a beard he needs to shave off this first growth in order to encourage one.