| One of my friends just told me that she started IVF last month. She’s 47 years old with some underlying health conditions (unrelated to reproductive issues, but she’s overweight if that’s relevant). I was very supportive and hope she can have a baby, but privately, as wondering whether she is setting herself up for disappointment. I’d hope she’s seeing a doctor that gave her decent odds of getting pregnant, but she’s 47 and I wonder how good her odds can be even with medical technology. Do you think she has a chance based on your experience? |
| If she uses egg donor she has good chances but its a big risk for her to go through pregnancy at that age. |
| Yes... so many risks, especially since overweight. I see a LOT of older women with IVF having pre-eclampsia. I just don't get it, but that's not something I would share with someone! |
| Unless she froze her own eggs she’s using donor eggs. Her age alone should not preclude her from carrying a pregnancy. She will be under the care of an MFM who will manage any medical issues. Wish her well and be supportive without judgement . Her body, her life, her choice. |
| Support your friend. |
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Basically no chance with her own eggs. Some chance with donor or frozen eggs. But its her RE's job to tell her that. As a friend, just be supportive.
(I'm not saying this to judge your friend, as I also did IVF. But I didn't understand the age stats for IVF until I was doing it.) |
| Probably using do or eggs. Not your business. |
| she's probably using donor eggs. she has a very good chance. |
| That is very old to have a baby in so many ways. |
While the chance with own egg is extremely low the chance with donor egg or donor embryo is almost equivalent to a younger person. I think PGS tested embryo Chance is about 45% live birth assuming no uterine issues. In any case I went through pregnancy at 47 with no complications, although I definitely had increased monitoring during pregnancy. Totally worth it! So definitely be supportive and non judgemental. I had some very supportive friends and they did make a difference! There is at least one book geared towards older mothers (in their 40’s). I think the one I read is called the Joy of Late Motherhood. |
| is this her first child? |
My grandma had her youngest at 45 (and 6 children prior to that) |
My friend just had her fourth at 44. Oops. |
| It’s advanced maternal age no doubt but if she has had successful pregnancies before her body has proven it can do it so it’s not that risky. A first pregnancy is a bit more of a nail biter but really so long as she is greatly healthy her body should be able to endure pregnancy and delivery. |
| Lots of overweight people have easy pregnancies, myself included. My last one was at 43. She is using donor eggs at 47. |