Need a therapist - recs of who or how to find one - middled aged woman

[Anonymous]

I think I'm in pretty serious need of therapy, possibly medication for a few issues.

1) Overuse of alcohol - put whatever label on it that you want, but I am drinking way too much and despite trying a few different programs/things, it's not getting better;

2) Depression or just a funk. I cannot get motivated in any area. I have always had everything very much together, even if I was having a couple or more drinks a night. I set small daily goals and can't even meet those. Totally overwhelmed by even keeping my kitchen cleaned up;

3) Marriage issues - need to figure out whether there is a future for this marriage or not, but want to work on staying together (we are currently living apart, but not separated).

Would appreciate either recommendations for therapists in Tysons/Vienna/McLean/Falls Church/Oakton or links other than Psychology Today to figure out what kind of therapist I should look for.

I am incredibly bad at therapy. I am very good at putting a positive face on everything and appearing competent/polished/together. So I'm not sure I need/want just talking for an hour at a time. I don't know. Any help or recommendations you can provide will be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Therapists are booked booked booked. I used zoc doc. Many do not take insurance. You can send insurance in yourself. It’s a struggle but keep trying. GL.

[jsmith123]

Maybe you could try one of those online providers. Maybe you would be more open if you didn't feel like you had to perform in a room with someone?

I don't have personal experience with any of the services, but I hear betterhelp.com advertised.

Also I'm not sure if you have a primary care physician, or an OB that you trust, but you can always ask them too.

Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I would start by looking into the types of therapy offered and then find a practitioner who focuses on that area. I felt some benefit from talk therapy for midlife, “what am I doing?” issues, but immense benefit from CBT for anxiety issues. Very different

[Anonymous]

OP if you are willing to do telehealth, then your options open up considerably.

You sound ready to just tell the truth, which is going to be a big help. I highly recommend that you print this post of yours and bring it to the first session. Because the therapist needs to know that you are good at putting up a front.

If you are willing to be 100% honest and bring this post to your first session, you are going to be so far ahead of the game and will save you a bunch of time. Im serious.

[Anonymous]

Most therapists are not trained to deal with alcohol issues. There is very specific training they need to have and I believe a specific licensure. Make sure the person doesn't not have a God complex and actually has the training in addictions.

[Anonymous]

I recommend this practice:
https://growthandrecovery.com/

[Anonymous]

I highly recommend Hayley because of everything you want to work on. She’s in DC but you could do telemedicine. Also sliding scale.

https://imagocenterdc.com/hayley-hoffman-lpc-ncc/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most therapists are not trained to deal with alcohol issues. There is very specific training they need to have and I believe a specific licensure. Make sure the person doesn't not have a God complex and actually has the training in addictions.

Alcohol issues are nearly always rooted in psychological issues and a good therapist can help with those. Mine has.