Everyone keeps commenting on how much they hate our new baby's name

[Anonymous]

I have loved the name Sara since I was a little girl. I just thought it sounded and looked SO pretty. When I got pregnant and we found out it was a girl, I explained my love for "Sara without an H" to DH and he said sure, and suggested Grace, after his first cousin who died as a little girl, whose parents were excellent aunt and uncle to him and his brother. So now we have Sara Grace.

I have always been very close with my parents, sisters (2) and extended family. Everyone is saying how basic and simple, old and unimaginative Sara is. And apparently my parents knew a couple with a daughter named Grace who became such an awful person - she would get random jobs and then have an accident and get workers comp and when that ran out get a new job, etc. and didn't take good care of her kids. This is such a distant person to me - I very vaguely think I might remember my parents going out for dinner with her parents? But I never met their daughter and my parents haven't been friends with her parents in well over a decade.

We love the name Sara Grace. Every time family comes over or calls or texts they ask if I haven't reconsidered, they offer to pay for the paperwork to change her name, they talk about how this is the only bad decision I've made in my life. DH finally lost it and told them to leave if they were going to continue on about her name - it's been 4.5 months, we agreed on the name well before DD was born and we're not going to change it. When he finished yelling he immediately said sorry for yelling at my family and stormed off to our bedroom. My mother and aunts all looked around and said, "What's HIS problem?" "Is work very stressful lately?" and then continued on talking about changing DD's name.

How much longer will it take them to accept this? Other than this, they are all wonderful and helpful. When they come by they cook, they fold laundry, they planted flowers outside. In every other way they are great and supportive relatives. I am at a loss.

[Anonymous]

You’re being too nice, your family are acting like complete a-holes and Sara grace is a lovely and class name.

I think you need to be really firm with them. Like no discussion of her name with you or her EVER or they’re not welcome in the house. It’s really rude and disrespectful.


Is your family American? This is something my Chinese parents would totally do and they don’t respond to tact, so don’t waste your time…

[Anonymous]

It’s a lovely name. Tell them if they say another word about your baby’s name they will have to leave and back it up. They can come back and try again another time.

[Anonymous]

At the slightest hint of negativity surrounding her name:

Tell them to leave immediately.

Get up and leave immediately.

Hang up the phone on them.

Don't respond to the texts.

[Anonymous]

I love these kinds of humdrum problems in the pandemic. Keep it coming. This keeps me sane and distracted...

[Anonymous]

Do they understand the intent behind it? Ir did you just sorta announce your decision and that rubbed your mom and aunt the wrong way?

Did you explain that Grace is a personal and family name for DH ? And that Sara was something you and Dh like?

Is there a cultural element? Does your family want you to choose a name with a meaning or cultural significance instead?

[Anonymous]

It's a beautiful name and I wanted to name my DD Sara without an h after my best friend since I was 8 years old.

I married a kind, hot, ambitious, intelligent and very successful hippie (yes!) and we have quite an unusual name for our DD. DCUM would hate it and has stated that they hate it. I will always pine for the name Sara.

[Anonymous]

I’m having a very hard time believing this.

[Anonymous]

Your husband’s right. That said if you still want their help, and it sounds like you do, I’d completely put a stop to all baby name talk. That includes you bringing up the name or emphasizing the lack of an H in discussions. It truly doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love these kinds of humdrum problems in the pandemic. Keep it coming. This keeps me sane and distracted...

This isn’t a huge problem, but it’s so unspeakably rude and bizarre (almost unbelievably so) I would hardly call it humdrum.

[Anonymous]

Two things

One you need to tell them to NEVER SAY ANYTHING UGLY ABOUT YOUR BABY AGIAN

Two the best person I know is Sara with no h. So I already love your baby ❤️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a very hard time believing this.

I dunno why but I immediately thought this was fake too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do they understand the intent behind it? Ir did you just sorta announce your decision and that rubbed your mom and aunt the wrong way? Did you explain that Grace is a personal and family name for DH ? And that Sara was something you and Dh like? Is there a cultural element? Does your family want you to choose a name with a meaning or cultural significance instead?

There's no real cultural element. We're many generations American, vaguely Christian (we hide eggs at Easter and do Christmas at home and that's pretty much it). The names my similarly-aged sisters and cousins have given their children are: Skylar, Madison, Parker, McKayla, Grayson, Sophia, Landon.

We explained our reasoning for the first and middle names, and how much we love them, etc. They just seem to disagree with our taste.

[Anonymous]

I love her name! It’s classic and beautiful, you made a great choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m having a very hard time believing this.

I dunno why but I immediately thought this was fake too.

Because literally no one would be “offering to pay for the paperwork” to change a name as innocuous as Sara Grace. The additional details about the names the relatives are apparently fine with, which include “McKayla”, just confirm for me that this is a troll post.