Bar/bat mitzvah planning for Fall 2021

[Anonymous]

Are you ordering masks?

Are you ordering kippot without the date?

Any other tips?

Indoors or outdoors for the ceremony?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the question should have been -- should it just be virtual for September?

-- OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the question should have been -- should it just be virtual for September?

-- OP

We’re going to an in-person Bar Mitzvah in NYC this weekend. I think the shul is limiting it to 25 people and they’re just having an Oneg and then a dinner for the family. No big party with friends.

[Anonymous]

Destination bat mitzvah with handful of family members. The nice thing about the Torah is that her portion comes up every year, so we will do a party when it is safer to do so.

[Anonymous]

Is your synagogue open? The question of being in person or virtual, indoors or outdoors, seems like something you should be able to ask your rabbi, so he/she can give you the protocols for each type of service.

That said, I've always been a fan of leaving the date off the kippot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your synagogue open? The question of being in person or virtual, indoors or outdoors, seems like something you should be able to ask your rabbi, so he/she can give you the protocols for each type of service.

That said, I've always been a fan of leaving the date off the kippot.

Synagogue is closed with no reopening plans. We're renting a place.

--OP

[Anonymous]

I went to my cousin’s bar mitzvah right before the covid lockdown and the party was loud as hell. Since when has it been this way? Can old people even go to these anymore ?

[Anonymous]

October Batmitzvah. Planning outdoor ceremony and park pavilion lunch party. Inviting about 150, but expecting significantly less.

Our synagouge also closed with no plans on reopening and won’t even let us zoom this as the “official” synagouge service. (We are appealing)

[Anonymous]

12 and up will be vaccinated by then so what will be issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12 and up will be vaccinated by then so what will be issue?

Younger siblings or cousins. Immunocompromised family and friends. Synagogues still being closed and with those closures, a lack of the community structure and support that used to surround these simchas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:October Batmitzvah. Planning outdoor ceremony and park pavilion lunch party. Inviting about 150, but expecting significantly less.

Our synagouge also closed with no plans on reopening and won’t even let us zoom this as the “official” synagouge service. (We are appealing)

Y do u want 2 zoom it? Won't your family have more privacy w/o zoom?
- op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:October Batmitzvah. Planning outdoor ceremony and park pavilion lunch party. Inviting about 150, but expecting significantly less.

Our synagouge also closed with no plans on reopening and won’t even let us zoom this as the “official” synagouge service. (We are appealing)

Y do u want 2 zoom it? Won't your family have more privacy w/o zoom?
- op

Because a bat mizvah is part of the religious service for that day. Not having it be part of the service is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:October Batmitzvah. Planning outdoor ceremony and park pavilion lunch party. Inviting about 150, but expecting significantly less.

Our synagouge also closed with no plans on reopening and won’t even let us zoom this as the “official” synagouge service. (We are appealing)

Y do u want 2 zoom it? Won't your family have more privacy w/o zoom?
- op

Because a bat mizvah is part of the religious service for that day. Not having it be part of the service is weird.

Oh, okay.

Well, I don't feel that way. Synagogue is closed so they wouldn't do ANY service that day. I'm just looking at doing my own service.

-- OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:October Batmitzvah. Planning outdoor ceremony and park pavilion lunch party. Inviting about 150, but expecting significantly less.

Our synagouge also closed with no plans on reopening and won’t even let us zoom this as the “official” synagouge service. (We are appealing)

Y do u want 2 zoom it? Won't your family have more privacy w/o zoom?
- op

Because a bat mizvah is part of the religious service for that day. Not having it be part of the service is weird.

Oh, okay.

Well, I don't feel that way. Synagogue is closed so they wouldn't do ANY service that day. I'm just looking at doing my own service.

-- OP

The person who answered wasn’t me (October batmitzvah mom) but that’s essentially correct (if rather terse). We don’t want privacy, we want to be part of th synagouge community. The synagouge has reconsidered, but they aren’t making it simple! So we are now the “official” service for that Shabbat and will let folks in the synagogue know they are welcome to attend in person if comfortable. Synagogue building is closed, but they are still zooming services

[Anonymous]

My my. I feel terrible for you if you are still wrestling with these issues in October 2021. In the DMV area there is much less covid now than at any time since the pandemic started. And rates continue to plummet as more and more are vaccinated. 12 and up are surely vaccinated by then.

I had to push hard to have an outdoor, masked and distanced Bat Mitzvah in November--but it turned out lovely. We you tubed it for the greater group.

Weird point here--I don't think the synagogue wanted it to be the main service or they would have had to pay for the streaming. Higher end streaming costs money vs. just using an iphone on a tripod.