Unsolicited Opinions

[Anonymous]

Neighbor asked how college acceptances were going for ds. This neighbor also has a dc that is a HS senior going to college in the Fall. He congratulated ds on one of the schools he had been accepted to, then proceeded to trash the others. According to him, one of the schools is full of rich snobs and the others were full of dummies. I was worried my ds might overhear so I said nothing hoping to not prolong the conversation. What would motivate an adult to say such rude things about college acceptances of another person's dc? Would you say something if he starts in again?

[Anonymous]

Because some people are simply vile, have you read some of the posts here? Yes, if he starts again, tell him to shut his mouth, it's none of his business. Your kid chose those schools for a reason and obviously has some sort of attachment to the choice, insulting the school is indirectly insulting your kid's choice, defend it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neighbor asked how college acceptances were going for ds. This neighbor also has a dc that is a HS senior going to college in the Fall. He congratulated ds on one of the schools he had been accepted to, then proceeded to trash the others. According to him, one of the schools is full of rich snobs and the others were full of dummies. I was worried my ds might overhear so I said nothing hoping to not prolong the conversation. What would motivate an adult to say such rude things about college acceptances of another person's dc? Would you say something if he starts in again?

I don't know why people are like this. Maybe a psychologist is out there who could talk about parental insecurity, desire for alpha status, or whatever drives this ugly behavior. But I do know what I would say to someone like this -- "Bye, Felicia".

[Anonymous]

"Please stop trashing other schools. What's the point of telling a kid not to be excited about the school they're going to?"

[Anonymous]

The question could have been answered with "DC is really excited about their options so far, but is waiting on a few more."

Parents of younger kids reading this: don't share the list of colleges. People will pry. It's none of their business. Wait until the final decision is made.

[Anonymous]

The question could have been answered with "DC is really excited about their options so far, but is waiting on a few more."

Parents of younger kids reading this: don't share the list of colleges. People will pry. It's none of their business. Wait until the final decision is made.

+1
Don't share the baby name until the baby's born
Don't share the college name until the student has accepted

[Anonymous]

Wow, I have a high "rude" bar, and that is really stunningly rude. To the point where I would probably say "Wow. Well, he's considering those schools, and we didn't ask for your advice" and just let that hang there.

[Anonymous]

It is a particular Marylander / DC trait. Say what you think without any kind of filter whatsoever with regards the feelings of the person you're speaking to.

It is rude and he is limited.

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Agree - with PP, give a vague answer until your child has decided where they are going - I got very, very good at this deflection and you will be amused how many people will not take the hint, requiring you to either repeat the "DS had options, still deciding" or go further with "It is DS's decision so we are letting him tell people"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because some people are simply vile, have you read some of the posts here? Yes, if he starts again, tell him to shut his mouth, it's none of his business. Your kid chose those schools for a reason and obviously has some sort of attachment to the choice, insulting the school is indirectly insulting your kid's choice, defend it.

I really hate posters like you. Why do you have to assume people always have bad intentions? Some people just like to share. If you don't like it, just ignore them. No need to defend your decision to anyone. Be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because some people are simply vile, have you read some of the posts here? Yes, if he starts again, tell him to shut his mouth, it's none of his business. Your kid chose those schools for a reason and obviously has some sort of attachment to the choice, insulting the school is indirectly insulting your kid's choice, defend it.

I really hate posters like you. Why do you have to assume people always have bad intentions? Some people just like to share. If you don't like it, just ignore them. No need to defend your decision to anyone. Be nice.

I really hate people like you, spineless weaklings that would accept an obnoxious self-entitled neighbor spew insults on my kid's life decisions, not happening. You do you, I'm good just the way I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is a particular Marylander / DC trait. Say what you think without any kind of filter whatsoever with regards the feelings of the person you're speaking to.

It is rude and he is limited.

Let it go.

There are rude people who weren't raised properly in every state (and country). I probably would not talk to much with this person. He is ill mannered. You child will have to learn how to deal with such people, since this won't be the last time he encounters one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because some people are simply vile, have you read some of the posts here? Yes, if he starts again, tell him to shut his mouth, it's none of his business. Your kid chose those schools for a reason and obviously has some sort of attachment to the choice, insulting the school is indirectly insulting your kid's choice, defend it.

I really hate posters like you. Why do you have to assume people always have bad intentions? Some people just like to share. If you don't like it, just ignore them. No need to defend your decision to anyone. Be nice.

I really hate people like you, spineless weaklings that would accept an obnoxious self-entitled neighbor spew insults on my kid's life decisions, not happening. You do you, I'm good just the way I am.

full of nastiness. no way to live a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because some people are simply vile, have you read some of the posts here? Yes, if he starts again, tell him to shut his mouth, it's none of his business. Your kid chose those schools for a reason and obviously has some sort of attachment to the choice, insulting the school is indirectly insulting your kid's choice, defend it.

I really hate posters like you. Why do you have to assume people always have bad intentions? Some people just like to share. If you don't like it, just ignore them. No need to defend your decision to anyone. Be nice.

I really hate people like you, spineless weaklings that would accept an obnoxious self-entitled neighbor spew insults on my kid's life decisions, not happening. You do you, I'm good just the way I am.

full of nastiness. no way to live a life.

Thanks for your unsolicited opinion, I'm good, go away.

[Anonymous]

How's the College admissions going?

"Great. She's got lots of great choices. We're very excited. Thanks for asking."

Full stop.