asexuality

[Anonymous]

So next month it will officially be 10 years since I had sex, and 18 years since I had sex with anyone I was excited about having sex with. And that was kind of a one-off. Had some good exciting sex in college and grad school, but I never missed it afterward. (I'm 51 now.)

Anyone else just not interested?

[Anonymous]

DW isn't interested. We haven't had sex in 8y..and only once in the 3y preceding that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW isn't interested. We haven't had sex in 8y..and only once in the 3y preceding that.

OP here. I'm guessing that's difficult for you -- I'm sorry. I'm not in a relationship so it's easy for me to feel chill about my asexuality, but I do have compassion for couples who are dealing with the issue.

Do the two of you talk about it? I take it you've found solutions that work for you?

Wishing you all the best.

[Anonymous]

I’ve turned asexual after decades of marriage. Definitely still attracted to men, but could care less about sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW isn't interested. We haven't had sex in 8y..and only once in the 3y preceding that.

OP here. I'm guessing that's difficult for you -- I'm sorry. I'm not in a relationship so it's easy for me to feel chill about my asexuality, but I do have compassion for couples who are dealing with the issue.

Do the two of you talk about it? I take it you've found solutions that work for you?

Wishing you all the best.

Thank you. She knows that I am still interested and she isn't. But I am not willing to have an open marriage (we haven't really discussed it as I am not interested) and I am not willing to divorce over this - we've been together 22y and have 2 kids - and otherwise our relationship is pretty good. I mostly just take care of myself when I want - although that is hard since no one ever leaves our house (work/school/etc!)