IVF - What did your partner do that made you feel most supported?

[Anonymous]

Going through our first IVF cycle, and my partner is so in the dark and doesn't know what to do to support me. What types of things did your partners do to make this easier?

So far partner is managing the stim calendar, driving me to appts, and occasional massages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going through our first IVF cycle, and my partner is so in the dark and doesn't know what to do to support me. What types of things did your partners do to make this easier?

So far partner is managing the stim calendar, driving me to appts, and occasional massages.

Make/arrange dinner !

[Anonymous]

Dinner is good. I would just say make sure your partner understands the process and the timing of everything.

It's also helpful if your partner can do IM shots if that time comes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going through our first IVF cycle, and my partner is so in the dark and doesn't know what to do to support me. What types of things did your partners do to make this easier?

So far partner is managing the stim calendar, driving me to appts, and occasional massages.

That sounds fair. Ask HIM for what YOU need.

[Anonymous]

He organized all my meds and did my shots 2x a day

[Anonymous]

Same as PP above. Took care of everything else (ordering meds, payments, giving injections) and came to the main appts. Basically took stress and logistics off my plate completely.

[Anonymous]

Emotional support. I could handle all of the logistics over 5 cycles, but needed his rock steadiness and honesty to keep me going over and over again.

[Anonymous]

came to all the monitoring appointments.

[Anonymous]

I was fine driving myself to appts and managing the logistics. He was with me during my first couple of shots to see what they were like, but after that I wanted to do them myself anyway (I’d put a TV show on my laptop). The most important thing was managing my 3yo to let me rest whenever I wanted to (eg the last few days before egg retrieval and the day after)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was fine driving myself to appts and managing the logistics. He was with me during my first couple of shots to see what they were like, but after that I wanted to do them myself anyway (I’d put a TV show on my laptop). The most important thing was managing my 3yo to let me rest whenever I wanted to (eg the last few days before egg retrieval and the day after)

This. I was also fine managing positive and driving myself to appointments for the most part. My husband was around the first few times I did injections but you get used to them after a couple of days and then it’s over pretty quickly. It took me a few days to get the hang of mixing the solution for menopur and he helped with that. Stupid things like holding the syringe for one injection while I did the first, etc. and he drove me to and from my retrieval and FET.

[Anonymous]

Check bills, coordinate with insurance, basically take care of all of the paperwork.