How long did it take you to get over a relationship of 5+ years?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs last June. Stayed with him thru thick and thin. We didn't stop talking until July though and only a week before he started seeing someone new. He tells every girl we only dated a year which is a lie. He talked marrjage kids new house travel all the time with me. So since he's not reaching out and has a warm body I think he moved on. I have been pickier in dating though and its taking a longer time for me. How long did it take you to move on and despite the time that passed do you think he still thinks or misses me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs last June. Stayed with him thru thick and thin. We didn't stop talking until July though and only a week before he started seeing someone new. He tells every girl we only dated a year which is a lie. He talked marrjage kids new house travel all the time with me. So since he's not reaching out and has a warm body I think he moved on. I have been pickier in dating though and its taking a longer time for me. How long did it take you to move on and despite the time that passed do you think he still thinks or misses me?

It doesn't matter if he thinks of you or misses you. It will be much easier for you to get over him if you start dating and having sex with new people. BLOCK HIM from all your social media. Really. And then go out and have some (safe) sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs last June. Stayed with him thru thick and thin. We didn't stop talking until July though and only a week before he started seeing someone new. He tells every girl we only dated a year which is a lie. He talked marrjage kids new house travel all the time with me. So since he's not reaching out and has a warm body I think he moved on. I have been pickier in dating though and its taking a longer time for me. How long did it take you to move on and despite the time that passed do you think he still thinks or misses me?

It doesn't matter if he thinks of you or misses you. It will be much easier for you to get over him if you start dating and having sex with new people. BLOCK HIM from all your social media. Really. And then go out and have some (safe) sex.

We are in the middle of a pandemic. Its not exactly safe. He didn't care though and was meeting women. His practice got a notice from the health department because a former employee of his complained they weren't following covid rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs last June. Stayed with him thru thick and thin. We didn't stop talking until July though and only a week before he started seeing someone new. He tells every girl we only dated a year which is a lie. He talked marrjage kids new house travel all the time with me. So since he's not reaching out and has a warm body I think he moved on. I have been pickier in dating though and its taking a longer time for me. How long did it take you to move on and despite the time that passed do you think he still thinks or misses me?

It doesn't matter if he thinks of you or misses you. It will be much easier for you to get over him if you start dating and having sex with new people. BLOCK HIM from all your social media. Really. And then go out and have some (safe) sex.

We are in the middle of a pandemic. Its not exactly safe. He didn't care though and was meeting women. His practice got a notice from the health department because a former employee of his complained they weren't following covid rules.

How do you know that? You need to stop checking up on him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I broke up with my ex of 7 yrs last June. Stayed with him thru thick and thin. We didn't stop talking until July though and only a week before he started seeing someone new. He tells every girl we only dated a year which is a lie. He talked marrjage kids new house travel all the time with me. So since he's not reaching out and has a warm body I think he moved on. I have been pickier in dating though and its taking a longer time for me. How long did it take you to move on and despite the time that passed do you think he still thinks or misses me?

It doesn't matter if he thinks of you or misses you. It will be much easier for you to get over him if you start dating and having sex with new people. BLOCK HIM from all your social media. Really. And then go out and have some (safe) sex.

We are in the middle of a pandemic. Its not exactly safe. He didn't care though and was meeting women. His practice got a notice from the health department because a former employee of his complained they weren't following covid rules.

How do you know that? You need to stop checking up on him

He told me an employee complained fyi.

[Anonymous]

The first thing you need to do is cut all contact. He is keeping in touch with you to keep you on the back burner.

[Anonymous]

If anyone needs therapy, its you.

Not being harsh, just giving the best advice.

[Anonymous]

Ouch. 7 years without a ring/proposal should have been a red flag. Most would have cut him loose after 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anyone needs therapy, its you.

Not being harsh, just giving the best advice.

Okay, so why do I need therapy and he doesn't? He begged me to stay with him everytime during those 7 yrs. It seems my money would be better spent on material things and a gym membership or yoga classes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone needs therapy, its you.

Not being harsh, just giving the best advice.

Okay, so why do I need therapy and he doesn't? He begged me to stay with him everytime during those 7 yrs. It seems my money would be better spent on material things and a gym membership or yoga classes.

1. You’ll do well to ignore fools on DCUM.
2. Your healing is important and you need therapy to understand many things, including why you returned to someone you thought (knew) was worthy of leaving.
3. Definitely get moving in yoga and/or at the gym. Physical activity helps. Took me two years to get over my ex, and a new, hot, young date helped get me there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone needs therapy, its you.

Not being harsh, just giving the best advice.

Okay, so why do I need therapy and he doesn't? He begged me to stay with him everytime during those 7 yrs. It seems my money would be better spent on material things and a gym membership or yoga classes.

1. You’ll do well to ignore fools on DCUM.
2. Your healing is important and you need therapy to understand many things, including why you returned to someone you thought (knew) was worthy of leaving.
3. Definitely get moving in yoga and/or at the gym. Physical activity helps. Took me two years to get over my ex, and a new, hot, young date helped get me there.

It took you 2 yrs to get over your ex with therapy? Then it seems time and dating that one guy just did the healing not the therapy.

[Anonymous]

Dated my ex for 7 years, we were engaged. I think the last year of it I knew I wanted out. I broke up with him. I wasn’t planning on dating for a while and just enjoying myself but I met dh in a month. Madly in love with dh, but it took a year of dating dh to feel that my ex wasn’t hanging over my shoulder.

[Anonymous]

18 months

[Anonymous]

It takes as long as it takes but you are giving him all your attention and he is on about his business. If you want marriage and kids and all of that you can't get them with someone who don't want that with you. As someone else suggested go talk to a therapist, get to a gym and get to dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dated my ex for 7 years, we were engaged. I think the last year of it I knew I wanted out. I broke up with him. I wasn’t planning on dating for a while and just enjoying myself but I met dh in a month. Madly in love with dh, but it took a year of dating dh to feel that my ex wasn’t hanging over my shoulder.

It does feel weird not to talk anymore to someone you've known for so long. Did you feel like he wanted to come back and that is why he was in the back of your mind? What do you think helped you the most to move on? Do you think you fell in love quicker because you were desperate to get over your ex?