Family Member as Surrogate

[Anonymous]

Has anyone here had a close family member (like a sibling) offer to be their surrogate? It’s such a kind offer, but how does this affect your familial relationship. I assume you cover their medical bills, but anything else to think of. Would you feel comfortable with this (this is all fairly hypothetical at this point), just hoping to hear some stories. Most of the surrogacy threads on here seem to be related to using an agency.

[Anonymous]

Not personal experience but my friend’s sister was a surrogate for her. They obviously had a great relationship, but one thing they made sure to do was have a contract drawn up and meet with an attorney as a precaution. She says that they both felt a lot better having everything spelled out on paper: how insurance coverage would work, who would make decisions about things like amniocentesis if needed, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not personal experience but my friend’s sister was a surrogate for her. They obviously had a great relationship, but one thing they made sure to do was have a contract drawn up and meet with an attorney as a precaution. She says that they both felt a lot better having everything spelled out on paper: how insurance coverage would work, who would make decisions about things like amniocentesis if needed, etc.

Amnio, terminations, elective c section, etc. Better to be on the same page for everything before anything comes up. Ask your IVF clinic for their recommendation for help on this. They probably use a therapist.

Personally, I would only do it if the prospective surrogate: 1) has her own kids and is satisfied with the size of her family 2) only had low risk pregnancies 3) loves bring pregnant