Child doesn’t care if underwear gets wet

[Anonymous]

Trying to potty train and finding my child doesn’t care if diaper or underwear is wet. Gets upset if he spills water on his clothes though!

Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

How old?

[Anonymous]

That's the way it is for some kids. You'll need to check with him frequently.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't care about soiled underwear, he's probably not ready to be potty trained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old?

My answer depends on how old your kid is. If he is closer to two, I would wait a few weeks. If he is closer to three, I would bribe him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's the way it is for some kids. You'll need to check with him frequently.

That’s just training the parents, not the kid.

[Anonymous]

My DD was like that. It made potty training really tough but she got there eventually. You’ll need lots of patience.

She did have accidents at school through kindergarten. Just couldn’t be bothered sometimes. By then I made her clean up after every accident, which she hated but it helped reinforce that she needed to be responsible for going to the bathroom or there are consequences.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

My little guy is just turned 3 and is the exact same.

[Anonymous]

That's why you should just have them go commando for awhile. None of this diaper/underwear nonsense.

[Anonymous]

This is because you’re supposed to train naked. Underwear confuses them

[Anonymous]

This was my son until age 4. He knew how to use the potty just didn’t care if he was wet. One day after turning four he declared he was going to wear underwear and he did. Up until that point he wasn’t ready. He had been doing number two on the potty no problem. He just wouldn’t stop what he was doing to pee. Dr said it was normal. No daytime accidents since.

[Anonymous]

My DD stays dry all day at school but will poop/pee in her underwear at home. I just don't understand. I'm 3 kids in and I have not experienced this with my other two. They may have wet themselves but never pooped in underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is because you’re supposed to train naked. Underwear confuses them

But eventually you have to take them places in clothes. They’re not potty trained until they’ll do it on their own while wearing proper clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD was like that. It made potty training really tough but she got there eventually. You’ll need lots of patience.

She did have accidents at school through kindergarten. Just couldn’t be bothered sometimes. By then I made her clean up after every accident, which she hated but it helped reinforce that she needed to be responsible for going to the bathroom or there are consequences.

Good luck.

Mine was this way, too. Tried naked, tried underwear, tried all the different methods, but if she was involved in something, it just didn't bother her. She'd been dry at night for almost a year, so we knew she was physically ready, but during the day she'd ignore it when she was busy. It just wasn't a priority for her. Timers helped a bit at first, reminding her to at least try every hour or two, but if she needed to go in between, she wouldn't stop what she was doing.

The "it's your body, and you're responsible for it" approach eventually worked for us, too. We didn't frame the cleanup as a punishment, but a natural consequence, and tried to stay neutral and keep parental frustration out of it. We did do a LOT of reminding her that we wouldn't be reminding her to go, though, just to keep it somewhat on her radar screen as she played.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn't care about soiled underwear, he's probably not ready to be potty trained.

This. So, you could persist, and train yourself well to help him avoid accidents, or wait until he does care, and make it about him learning to avoid them himself.