Nanny is worried about other child sound of scream

[Anonymous]

We have fairly new nanny share with a 7 month year old and 2 year old. The 7 month screams, not a normal scream but high pitch continuous scream. Our two year old seems uncomfortable around this baby. We have spoken to the parents who inform us this is due to gas. My nanny informed us in all her 10+ years experience with babies she has never heard this sound, she is worried something is wrong. What to do if the parents tell us nothing is wrong, it's just gas?

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure how your nanny share works but are you able to request that they return only after they have a diagnosis from a doctor? If the nanny is concerned and it’s uncomfortable for everyone else, they should have their child evaluated.

[Anonymous]

a 7 month old with gas that makes him scream like that? doesn't sound right. especially if your nanny is concerned too.

Sounds like he needs an evaluation. maybe the nanny can record the child screaming, perhaps the parents aren't really hearing it the same way. or the docs when they go for an appointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure how your nanny share works but are you able to request that they return only after they have a diagnosis from a doctor? If the nanny is concerned and it’s uncomfortable for everyone else, they should have their child evaluated.

The other family told us the doctor is not worried, this is due to gas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:a 7 month old with gas that makes him scream like that? doesn't sound right. especially if your nanny is concerned too.

Sounds like he needs an evaluation. maybe the nanny can record the child screaming, perhaps the parents aren't really hearing it the same way. or the docs when they go for an appointment.

I've heard the screaming, it's nothing I ever heard from another child before.

[Anonymous]

OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

[Anonymous]

Is the screaming new? Whenever my kids screamed like that, it was ear infection related. I would also have some concern about the viability of a nanny share with two kids at such different developmental places. In your position, I would be concerned that the nanny was spending significantly more energy on the younger child with the higher needs and would wonder what kind of attention my child was getting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

I really don't see how this is your place. Certainly it's nothing contagious, right?

I think your options are to continue in the nanny share or not. That's it. You don't get to decide what interventions the other family does, whether or not you are correct that there is an issue. It's not your place. At all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

I really don't see how this is your place. Certainly it's nothing contagious, right?

I think your options are to continue in the nanny share or not. That's it. You don't get to decide what interventions the other family does, whether or not you are correct that there is an issue. It's not your place. At all.

+1. Sounds like the nanny isn't that comfortable with the 7 month old. Maybe you could poach the nanny if you like her and find another family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

If you asked me for a note, I'd tell you to pound sand. Either you accept it or you find a different family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

I really don't see how this is your place. Certainly it's nothing contagious, right?

I think your options are to continue in the nanny share or not. That's it. You don't get to decide what interventions the other family does, whether or not you are correct that there is an issue. It's not your place. At all.

Agree. Your only real option is to figure out a new child care arrangement if you are not happy with your current one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the screaming new? Whenever my kids screamed like that, it was ear infection related. I would also have some concern about the viability of a nanny share with two kids at such different developmental places. In your position, I would be concerned that the nanny was spending significantly more energy on the younger child with the higher needs and would wonder what kind of attention my child was getting.

Not concerned about the attention. The question is how to move forward with the screaming issue.

[Anonymous]

No advice on the screaming, but I don't think you'd be crazy to find another childcare arrangement for yourself. This situation sounds non-ideal for your 2 yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, would it be wrong to request they provide a note? Not sure how to handle this situation.

If you asked me for a note, I'd tell you to pound sand. Either you accept it or you find a different family.

If my child made screaming sounds such as this I'd seek professional help.

[Anonymous]

Has any of you mothers ever had a child who literally screamed high pitch for hours? Not an hour but long periods of time?