What do teens wear to Bar Mitzvahs?

[Anonymous]

My 13-year-old DS will be going to the synagogue portion of a Bar Mitzvah. Slacks and a button-down shirt? Or a suit? Thanks. I've never been to one.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised your DS will be able to attend an in-person Bar Mitzvah right now.

That said, either option is perfectly fine. The bar mitzvah kid will be in a full suit and tie.

[Anonymous]

There is a wide variety among the young guests. I would not buy a jacket if he does not already have one. Shirt and Tie/polo are ok too.

[Anonymous]

Work casual is fine-nice pants and nice shirt. The girls....ph my....to the parties so many wear tight short dresses with cleavage showing and high heals at the ones we went to it was sad. Then they yelled at boys who looked for too long.

[Anonymous]

We bought a navy blazer for our (non-Jewish) kid to wear to his friends’ bar mitzvahs. He wore it with khaki pants and a white shirt. We figured that since we aren’t Jewish we should err on the side of formality!

[Anonymous]

N95 and a face shield.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We bought a navy blazer for our (non-Jewish) kid to wear to his friends’ bar mitzvahs. He wore it with khaki pants and a white shirt. We figured that since we aren’t Jewish we should err on the side of formality!

+100 blue blazer khaki pants button- down with tie and brown loafers

[Anonymous]

^ and cash gifts in multiples of 18

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ and cash gifts in multiples of 18

This has been widely debated on DCUM. A tradition in some groups. I never heard of it till DCUM. It does not have to be $$ and it can be any amount.

[Anonymous]

If “any amount” then why not honor the culture in this small way? $54 is as easy as $50; $18 is as easy as $20.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for navy blazer and khakis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If “any amount” then why not honor the culture in this small way? $54 is as easy as $50; $18 is as easy as $20.

A few years ago I gave $54 to my older son's friend and the mom said $18, $36, yes but $54 is silly just give $50. Since then that's what I have done. My other jewish friends agreed with her but what do others think? I grew up in a heavily jewish community, easiily went to 30 Bar/Bat Mitzvahs myself and never knew the $18 rule. In the mid 80's I think we gave $15 and to my very good friends an actual gift like a boom box, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If “any amount” then why not honor the culture in this small way? $54 is as easy as $50; $18 is as easy as $20.

A few years ago I gave $54 to my older son's friend and the mom said $18, $36, yes but $54 is silly just give $50. Since then that's what I have done. My other jewish friends agreed with her but what do others think? I grew up in a heavily jewish community, easiily went to 30 Bar/Bat Mitzvahs myself and never knew the $18 rule. In the mid 80's I think we gave $15 and to my very good friends an actual gift like a boom box, etc.

I grew up going to lots of bar/bat mitzvahs and the 18 rule for cash was something parents did but if just kids were invited we did a lot of things like gift cards to mall stores etc for whatever denominations they offered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We bought a navy blazer for our (non-Jewish) kid to wear to his friends’ bar mitzvahs. He wore it with khaki pants and a white shirt. We figured that since we aren’t Jewish we should err on the side of formality!

That is the perfect temple outfit for any boy, Jewish or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ and cash gifts in multiples of 18

This has been widely debated on DCUM. A tradition in some groups. I never heard of it till DCUM. It does not have to be $$ and it can be any amount.

LOL ok. Because you haven’t heard of it before, it’s “widely debated.”

It’s really very typical, PP.