Mad at Husband
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Anonymous
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Since quarantine started my husband has increased his alcohol intake quite a bit. He wasn't getting wasted drunk, but 5-6 nights a week he was drinking 2-3 beers (usually IPAs) after our children went to sleep. I told him I didn't like how much he was drinking but kind of let it go.
He went in for a physical over winter break and gained 10 pounds since last year. He is very active so I think it surprised him how much he gained since his last physical. He is not fat or anything (5"10 165 pounds). He said for his new years resolution he was only going to drink on weekends. He also told me to call him out if he breaks the resolution. He was good the first two weeks, but he put some glasses in the freezer today and said he is drinking tonight because tomorrow is a holiday and he doesn't have work (he is a fed employee who gets inauguration off). I called him out and he is mad at me. Should I let it go? |
Anonymous
| I’d let it go tonight and just join him |
Anonymous
| He told you to call him out, you did, now let it go. What else are you going to do, nag him over his own resolution? |
Anonymous
| You're giving him crap for a couple of beers? HE should let YOU go. |
Anonymous
| Chill, op. |
Anonymous
3 beers a night for every day of the week except Sunday seems excessive to me. But whatever. |
Anonymous
| Most people would understand "only drink on the weekend" to mean "only drink when it won't interfere with work," and not have brought it up in the first place. But, you brought it up. Now drop it. |
Anonymous
Reading is hard, PP. |
Anonymous
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It's the end of a nightmarish four years. Tonight and tomorrow let it go.
I have my champagne chilling for tomorrow. |
Anonymous
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I would let him celebrate!
Btw, 5'10" and 165 for a male is thin. |
Anonymous
Yep, he's in shape. That's what my 77 year old dad weighs. |
Anonymous
That clearly didn't work so well. He can handle his own resolutions in the future. |
Anonymous
| He shouldn't be mad, as you are doing what he asked, however, you should remove yourself from your commitment to helping him keep his resolution. |
Anonymous
| Next time, tell him you don't want to be his accountability partner and that he should find one somewhere else (a friend, an app, a therapist). |
Anonymous
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My DH has asked me to help him stick to his resolutions about drinking also. Never really works, same as I don't want to be reminded that i said no snacks after 8 pm, etc. Just tell him kindly that you don't want to police his drinking - that is up to him.
Also, I think many of us will be pouring one out tonight (Hell, maybe tomorrow at noon). |