6 mo only eats with DH

[Anonymous]

Our 6mo DD spent ate well with both me (mom) and DH for the first 3-4 months, though DH fed her more because I was doing a lot of pumping (breastfeeding never got off the ground fully due to tongue tie, reflux, etc, so we mostly bottlefed after 1-2 months). Then we hit a rough patch with reflux we struggled to get DD to eat, likely due to silent reflux. After consulting with Ped, adding rice to her bottle and backing off until she was really hungry seemed to fix things, and she now eats well enough. The catch is that DH did a lot of the problem solving during that stretch and she now largely won't eat with me or our new nanny, refusing the bottle until we bring DH in.

Ped advised that we just "keep trying" with me and the nanny, but I'm wondering if anyone else dealt with a similar issue and how you solved it. DD is healthy and eating, if only with DH, so it feels like overkill to see any kind of feeding therapist / speech pathologist, but we'd be open to it if it would increase the chances of success. We could also just let DD go hungry until she is willing to eat with someone other than DH, but this feels a little harsh.

Thanks for any advice, feeding issues sound trivial but they can be really frustrating (particularly for DH who feels like the burden is on him to get DD to eat enough).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our 6mo DD spent ate well with both me (mom) and DH for the first 3-4 months, though DH fed her more because I was doing a lot of pumping (breastfeeding never got off the ground fully due to tongue tie, reflux, etc, so we mostly bottlefed after 1-2 months). Then we hit a rough patch with reflux we struggled to get DD to eat, likely due to silent reflux. After consulting with Ped, adding rice to her bottle and backing off until she was really hungry seemed to fix things, and she now eats well enough. The catch is that DH did a lot of the problem solving during that stretch and she now largely won't eat with me or our new nanny, refusing the bottle until we bring DH in.

Ped advised that we just "keep trying" with me and the nanny, but I'm wondering if anyone else dealt with a similar issue and how you solved it. DD is healthy and eating, if only with DH, so it feels like overkill to see any kind of feeding therapist / speech pathologist, but we'd be open to it if it would increase the chances of success. We could also just let DD go hungry until she is willing to eat with someone other than DH, but this feels a little harsh.

Thanks for any advice, feeding issues sound trivial but they can be really frustrating (particularly for DH who feels like the burden is on him to get DD to eat enough).

Most likely like everything this too saw pass. Just keep trying! Kid most likely won't starve themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our 6mo DD spent ate well with both me (mom) and DH for the first 3-4 months, though DH fed her more because I was doing a lot of pumping (breastfeeding never got off the ground fully due to tongue tie, reflux, etc, so we mostly bottlefed after 1-2 months). Then we hit a rough patch with reflux we struggled to get DD to eat, likely due to silent reflux. After consulting with Ped, adding rice to her bottle and backing off until she was really hungry seemed to fix things, and she now eats well enough. The catch is that DH did a lot of the problem solving during that stretch and she now largely won't eat with me or our new nanny, refusing the bottle until we bring DH in.

Ped advised that we just "keep trying" with me and the nanny, but I'm wondering if anyone else dealt with a similar issue and how you solved it. DD is healthy and eating, if only with DH, so it feels like overkill to see any kind of feeding therapist / speech pathologist, but we'd be open to it if it would increase the chances of success. We could also just let DD go hungry until she is willing to eat with someone other than DH, but this feels a little harsh.

Thanks for any advice, feeding issues sound trivial but they can be really frustrating (particularly for DH who feels like the burden is on him to get DD to eat enough).

Most likely like everything this too saw pass. Just keep trying! Kid most likely won't starve themselves.

shall pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our 6mo DD spent ate well with both me (mom) and DH for the first 3-4 months, though DH fed her more because I was doing a lot of pumping (breastfeeding never got off the ground fully due to tongue tie, reflux, etc, so we mostly bottlefed after 1-2 months). Then we hit a rough patch with reflux we struggled to get DD to eat, likely due to silent reflux. After consulting with Ped, adding rice to her bottle and backing off until she was really hungry seemed to fix things, and she now eats well enough. The catch is that DH did a lot of the problem solving during that stretch and she now largely won't eat with me or our new nanny, refusing the bottle until we bring DH in.

Ped advised that we just "keep trying" with me and the nanny, but I'm wondering if anyone else dealt with a similar issue and how you solved it. DD is healthy and eating, if only with DH, so it feels like overkill to see any kind of feeding therapist / speech pathologist, but we'd be open to it if it would increase the chances of success. We could also just let DD go hungry until she is willing to eat with someone other than DH, but this feels a little harsh.

Thanks for any advice, feeding issues sound trivial but they can be really frustrating (particularly for DH who feels like the burden is on him to get DD to eat enough).

As the parent of a kid with severe reflux, I can tell you that solids were easier than bottles. Unless this is a huge problem, e.g. DH can't go to work because he has to stay to feed her, I'd let bottles be his thing, and work on getting some solids during the day, including things like yogurt and cereal with breastmilk or formula.

[Anonymous]

OP here: thanks for the replies. Agreed that, ultimately, we are trying to ween off of bottle onto solids / milk around a year, so worse case this is just another 6 months. The issue is hat the nanny is a short-term luxury, we'd like to send her to daycare in 2-3 months, and it seems like they might have trouble getting her to eat. No easy answers, I guess, other than to keep trying, but thanks for the support.