Is this what the early-mid thirties dating market like?

[Anonymous]

I created a profile on okc

Got 2 messages in the past 2 weeks.
One from a blue collar worker who can’t spell. One from a deaf guy.

[Anonymous]

Where are you located? I would try Bumble or Hinge or Coffee Meets Bagel.

[Anonymous]

Fill out your profile, have good pictures, and message men first. If you're doing those things and it's not working then, yeah, try something else.

[Anonymous]

What city?

[Anonymous]

Paste your profile text ... we can help you! I met an amazing guy on OKC, happily married now with a baby girl!

[Anonymous]

I don’t know anyone on okc. From what I hear bumble, hinge, maybe tinder (but I think that might not be popular anymore?) are where people are finding dates. This is just what I hear from my friends who are in their early 30s and single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I created a profile on okc

Got 2 messages in the past 2 weeks.
One from a blue collar worker who can’t spell. One from a deaf guy.

My friend is married to a deaf guy who she met online and after 20 years I feel like she's the happiest of the friends I have. Her life is a little simpler than mine though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I created a profile on okc

Got 2 messages in the past 2 weeks.
One from a blue collar worker who can’t spell. One from a deaf guy.

My friend is married to a deaf guy who she met online and after 20 years I feel like she's the happiest of the friends I have. Her life is a little simpler than mine though.

Sorry, he is almost blind, not deaf. That's terrible of me to get it mixed up, but anyway, it was a similar story.

[Anonymous]

What do you bring to the table?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I created a profile on okc

Got 2 messages in the past 2 weeks.
One from a blue collar worker who can’t spell. One from a deaf guy.

I'm 33, I have a date tonight with an engineer and a date this weekend with a surgeon. Your age isn't the problem. How are your pics? What do you do? Is your profile positive/fun or negative?

[Anonymous]

Get MUCH better pics. One of my friend was in your situation, and thought trying too hard was a bad idea. I created a fake profile on a random app, set as a man, and showed her the pics I got matched with. Girls dressed to the nines, full makeup, blown out hair. She immediately bought some colorful dresses and had a friend take posed photos. Has had many successful dates now.

[Anonymous]

Your profile must be bad. That’s not typical for a woman on OkCupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I created a profile on okc

Got 2 messages in the past 2 weeks.
One from a blue collar worker who can’t spell. One from a deaf guy.

My friend is married to a deaf guy who she met online and after 20 years I feel like she's the happiest of the friends I have. Her life is a little simpler than mine though.

Sorry, he is almost blind, not deaf. That's terrible of me to get it mixed up, but anyway, it was a similar story.

My mom is legally blind. So is a young lady that I worked with this year. People who have struggled their whole lives can often surprise you with other awesome qualities.

[Anonymous]

I think it may be your platform. I personally don't know anyone on OKC but rather Bumble or Hinge. A range of good photos do matter: no selfies, full body, close up, showing what you like to do, etc. Why don't you share what your profile says, and both men and women will be able to provide suggestions?

[Anonymous]

They could be great guys.

but regardless two contacts in 2 weeks is terrible if you live in a major metro area. Is your profile awful? Do you live in a tiny rural town (for example, my cousin is a teacher in a depressed rural part of SW VA and the numbers game just isn't in her favor)?