angry and frustrated that DH is never home when it's "go time"

[Anonymous]

I've posted here a lot, so my story might sound familiar but need to vent. We started ttc #2 in Sept 08. I finally got pregnant in May, but m/c in July 09. I'm in my 7th cycle since and, once again, guess what... DH is out of town. This has been the case for 5 of the 7 cycles (well, to be fair, I was the one out of town for ONE cycle). Honestly, I just want to scream. It takes us forever as it is, but it's kinda hard when the sperm isn't even in the neighborhood of the egg. He left on Friday, we had sex on Thurs. I'm guessing there is absolutely positively zero chance of this working out this month since I got a peak reading this a.m. on my CBEFM. DH is working a meeting in DC. I tried to suggest a rendezvous in his room last night when I attended an event with him. But he doesn't perform under pressure.

So here we are... another month down the tube. I am so angry and frustrated. I just want to cry but I have to keep it together for my DD. I am not a particularly religious person but am starting to wonder if this is a sign from God that it just isn't meant to happen this time. I've started to notice in recent months that I don't seem to even have any EWCM like I did way back. I am scared I am aging out (turning 35 this year - and I know women much older than me get PG all the time, but I think my reproductive system is showing signs of aging.)

Anyway, I'm just so sad.

[Anonymous]

You have my sympathy. Kind of a strange/crazy suggestion, but I wonder....is it possible to do any at-home fertility stuff like freezing his semen? Is that insane? I guess I'm not asking the OP this, but is there anyone out there who has done anything like this?

[Anonymous]

You have my sympathies, too. I am about to investigate freezing sperm (which is possible). I have heard that women used to do this "at home" and just shove it in there, but in my cases, the fertilization will need to happen with an IUI.

[Anonymous]

I did it at home by myself (with DH's sperm) and it worked on the first try. Definitely give it a try- can't hurt!

[Anonymous]

OP here - OK exactly how do you do this? I can't fathom DH agreeing to this, but I'm wondering how it works. Does he just put it in the cup, you freeze and then insert at ovulation?