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Anonymous
| Some women seem to glow when they are pregnant and always have a smile on their face. This has been the longest pregnancy and I'm only 32 weeks along. I have become so grumpy with DH and wanted to throttle him the other night. DC#1 has had to deal with grumpy momma at times. I have terrible restless legs syndrome, heartburn, achy, etc. I ate breakfast between 10 and 11 and am still so full that I can't eat lunch and it's 2:30 in the afternoon. I'm exhausted. My face has broken out in weird little red splotches and I saw someone at work today and she said that I had gotten bigger since Friday. I felt like saying "F you". It's gotta be hormones, right? I burst into tears yesterday afternoon and CRIED for about 5 minutes because I felt so sad and miserable. What the F? Then I see pregnant women in the grocery store with 3 little ones and they're smiling and look beautiful and happy. I feel like a bad pregnant woman. All I have to do is look at the TTC forum to realize how I should be happy with my belly but I'm so uncomfortable and am really quite miserable... |
Anonymous
| Don't beat yourself up, OP. Pregnancy is hard and unfortunately, is harder on some women than others. I have a friend who is 5'9" and she looked great her whole pregnancy and never felt like a beached whale (at least that is what she said when I asked her). On the other hand, I am 5'1" and there was no where for the baby to go. I was uncomfortable beginning at 30 weeks. I remember being thankful that there was only one in there, because I don't think my body could have handled twins, etc. Just try to get as much rest as you can and TRY to enjoy the time you have left while baby is in your tummy, because soon enough she will be hungry ever 2 hours and you'll think how much easier it was when you were pregnant! |
Anonymous
| You are not a bad pregnant mommy! I'm pregnant with #2 as well and I think it's harder the second time because you are still exhausted from the birth of your first. I'm tired, cranky and everyone around me irritates the hell of me! In the midst of feeling guilty about that, I got ridiculed at work the other day by a woman who does not have kids for having caffeine. Then my friend tattled on another pregnant friend who has a glass of wine a few times a week. I don't do the wine while pregnant thing, but it made me feel less like a bad pregnant mommy for a few minutes. Sorry you are feeling this way, but you only have 8 weeks to go. I have much longer! I'm less than half way there. |
Anonymous
| It's SO much harder the second time around!! Don't beat yourself up, I'm definitely not enjoying this pregnancy as much as I did the first time. |
Anonymous
| you might want to consider talking to someone. Then you can vent to a professional and not take it out on your husband and child. |
Anonymous
| I am not feeling as well this time around either. I don't remember being this exhausted! Of course I have a 20 month old now, I'm only 9 weeks, but still... this is going to be a long 40 weeks if it keeps up this way. I also don't remember feeling this emotional! My God, I feel like I could cry, fall asleep, scream... at the drop of a hat. And I have not been very nice to DH either. I remember being in pregnancy bliss the first time and feeling so "zen".... I actually was calmer and nicer when I was pregnant the firs time than I usually am (LOL!)... you're not alone, this is hard! |
Anonymous
Kinda seems like that's what she's doing. I don't know that talking to a professional therapist would do any more good than venting on this board would do any more good. |
Anonymous
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Can your DH give you a break on the weekend so you can do something for yourself like go to a pre-natal yoga class or something? For me, the last fifteen minutes of class when we got to nap (I forget the proper term) was worth the price of admission and put me in a better mood for the whole weekend.
It's totally understandable to be exhausted, teary, annoyed, etc. Just don't add to your burden by being hard on yourself about it! |