Discussing weight at Dr Appt

[Anonymous]

Does your OB GYN discuss your weight at your appts while your partner is in the room? Do they take vitals (incl weight) with the partner present or separately?

[Anonymous]

When my husband came in to the appointments he was in the exam room (your whole appointment generally takes place in one room unless you are getting an ultrasound). The scale is also in the room so yes he was there. Generally the nurses were pretty discreet and would just look and note.

If this is like, your 20 week appointment, then you will do the ultrasound in one room and go to another room for your exam (might not even happen at the same time. You likely would not be weighed during an ultrasound only appointment or have any other vitals checked.

[Anonymous]

Are you that vain that you care if your DH knows how much you weigh? I mean he sees what you look like...

[Anonymous]

omg why are you asking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you that vain that you care if your DH knows how much you weigh? I mean he sees what you look like...

It’s not vanity, it’s more embarrassment. I’ve gained quite a bit during COVID and I’m feeling pretty down on myself and self conscious

[Anonymous]

My husband only came to the appointments where there was a sonogram, and only the sonogram portion of the appointment.

[Anonymous]

They're actually allowing your DH in to your appointments right now? I'm surprised by that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s not vanity, it’s more embarrassment. I’ve gained quite a bit during COVID and I’m feeling pretty down on myself and self conscious

Your husband can probably tell you've gained weight.... He won't be surprised by the number on the scale.
You have to be vulnerable with your husband if you're going to have a baby together. Pretty soon he's going to start seeing a lot more "new" things about you than just your weight.

[Anonymous]

When I switched from an OBGYN to a midwife practice, they always took/told me my weight in kilograms instead of pounds, which I loved since I had no sense of what it meant. (I actually stopped gaining weight in my third trimester and was trying desperately to gain more weight, so this helped me not stress). Maybe you could ask your nurse to do so?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that you're embarrassed, but don't be. Plenty of my super skinny friends gained 60-80lbs or so and lost it all. They actually enjoy talking about it because it's a source of pride.

In the hospital while in labor they mentioned my weight quite a few times. I was upset because my inlaws and parents were there and listening. I didn't care about dh knowing. It's what you look like after all.

[Anonymous]

Why is your DH allowed to appointments? Odd.

[Anonymous]

You can ask if they could please not discuss your weight unless it is problematic. Lots of women with history of eating disorders do this -- sometimes they get on the scale facing the other way. HUGS ... you are growing a human ... it's OK to gain weight!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can ask if they could please not discuss your weight unless it is problematic. Lots of women with history of eating disorders do this -- sometimes they get on the scale facing the other way. HUGS ... you are growing a human ... it's OK to gain weight!

If she's gaining excessive weight, it's problematic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask if they could please not discuss your weight unless it is problematic. Lots of women with history of eating disorders do this -- sometimes they get on the scale facing the other way. HUGS ... you are growing a human ... it's OK to gain weight!

If she's gaining excessive weight, it's problematic.

It doesn't mean they have to talk about it with her husband in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can ask if they could please not discuss your weight unless it is problematic. Lots of women with history of eating disorders do this -- sometimes they get on the scale facing the other way. HUGS ... you are growing a human ... it's OK to gain weight!

If she's gaining excessive weight, it's problematic.

It doesn't mean they have to talk about it with her husband in the room.

Np. We all have different relationships with our spouses. I think spouses should know any issue that arises, even if it’s just excessive weight or gestational diabetes. He’s your supporter and best friend in life.