Too cautious?

[Anonymous]

Last week there was a death in DH family. MIL is the matriarch and had been handling a lot. While there wasn’t a funeral, MIL sat with the immediate bereaved family member as they accepted a few guests a day bearing food and condolences. They wore masks and washed hands, and were as safe as they could be. DH has been working a lot lately and couldn’t go, so he wasn’t possibly exposed to anything.

We’ve been very lenient with ILs who quite literally don’t go anywhere. Our child visits occasionally, and was supposed to visit this weekend. I’m opposed and DH agrees, it’s not worth the risk. Even though they claim they wore masks, they still had an open house. We told ILs no visits until Christmas, just to be safe. They think we are being ridiculous. I get that we are upsetting the one thing they look forward to, I truly do. Are we being too cautious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last week there was a death in DH family. MIL is the matriarch and had been handling a lot. While there wasn’t a funeral, MIL sat with the immediate bereaved family member as they accepted a few guests a day bearing food and condolences. They wore masks and washed hands, and were as safe as they could be. DH has been working a lot lately and couldn’t go, so he wasn’t possibly exposed to anything.

We’ve been very lenient with ILs who quite literally don’t go anywhere. Our child visits occasionally, and was supposed to visit this weekend. I’m opposed and DH agrees, it’s not worth the risk. Even though they claim they wore masks, they still had an open house. We told ILs no visits until Christmas, just to be safe. They think we are being ridiculous. I get that we are upsetting the one thing they look forward to, I truly do. Are we being too cautious?

Until xmas? Why not in 7 -14 days like the rest of the world?

[Anonymous]

It has been determined that 7-10 days is an adequate quarantine per CDC. We know a lot more now about Covid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has been determined that 7-10 days is an adequate quarantine per CDC. We know a lot more now about Covid.

+1. CDC guidelines are this and if no symptoms or exposures, the kid(s) are safe to visit.

[Anonymous]

You are entitled to a preference. You don't have to prove you're right. Adults who respect each other honor each other's preferences. Don't ask that they agree with you. Don't wish to hear this, "oh, it's alright. We understand". That's asking too much of others.

[Anonymous]

It's your kid, so it's your decision to make. However, it's already been over a week. No need to wait until Christmas.

[Anonymous]

And what is your behavior?

[Anonymous]

You’re not being ridiculous. I would stick to not till Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's your kid, so it's your decision to make. However, it's already been over a week. No need to wait until Christmas.

It’s been a week since the death, but she’s been sitting with the bereaved all this week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what is your behavior?

I WAH, DH goes to work masked, kids are home, but we aren’t seeing random people all day, every day. I mask up to grocery shop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has been determined that 7-10 days is an adequate quarantine per CDC. We know a lot more now about Covid.

Can you provide a link that says that 7 days after an exposure (not after a positive test) is adequate?

[Anonymous]

I can't get past matriarch is that still a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has been determined that 7-10 days is an adequate quarantine per CDC. We know a lot more now about Covid.

Can you provide a link that says that 7 days after an exposure (not after a positive test) is adequate?

“If individuals do not develop symptoms, they need only quarantine for 10 days; if they test negative, that period can be reduced to just one week.”

https://www.npr.org/2020/12/02/941355347/cdc-shortens-its-covid-19-quarantine-recommendations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It has been determined that 7-10 days is an adequate quarantine per CDC. We know a lot more now about Covid.

Can you provide a link that says that 7 days after an exposure (not after a positive test) is adequate?

Google is your friend. But here I am bailing you out because you're too lazy to do it yourself.

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/more/scientific-brief-options-to-reduce-quarantine.html

You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

If your MIL was supporting a family member received guests and condolences through the 4th and your kids typically visit on the weekends, I would say wait until the weekend of 18th.

Given the surge, even with being careful with masks, things happen.

I read a blog this week where a Drs husband let his guard down for 20 minutes - and that was all that mattered. He grabbed a beer with at a friends house the week after Thanksgiving to celebrate his birthday …..