What will I look like when I grow up?

[Anonymous]

My 4.5 year old is developing some self-awareness about his appearance. He asked me what his face will look like when he is a grown-up, and I wasn't sure what to tell him except kind of like your Dad's. Looking for some resources about positive self-image and books that explain body changes and growth in a way that is appropriate for younger kids. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

You could show him baby photos and childhood photos of you and his dad, and how changes come bit by bit.

He's not asking for a literal answer, OP. Nor does he need his self image reinforced. You are creating way too much information in response to such a small query.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could show him baby photos and childhood photos of you and his dad, and how changes come bit by bit.

He's not asking for a literal answer, OP. Nor does he need his self image reinforced. You are creating way too much information in response to such a small query.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

You will look kind, courageous and hard working!

[Anonymous]

“What an interesting question! What do you think?”

[Anonymous]

It's your DH either extremely good or bad looking? Do people comment on good looks? I'm considered sort of pretty so people, even strangers, tell my 4 yo, "you're going to grow up beautiful like your mommy"

She repeats that, which I don't really like. I want her to focus on other things besides looks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“What an interesting question! What do you think?”

Yeah, I like this answer. This is how I handle a lot of questions from my 3 yr old. It’s a good way to find out why she’s asking, too. Often it’s coming from something unexpected, some connection their brains are making that I can’t see with my boring adult brain. If the questions are coming from a place of anxiety, this is a good way to find out (like if someone teased him about his appearance, that will come out if you ask questions). But it might just be natural curiosity, and asking him questions is good for that too, teaching him to explore an idea and use imagination and creativity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“What an interesting question! What do you think?”

Agree that this is a great answer. Although I might also be tempted to have fun with an age progression app. Maybe also look at pictures of family as kids and as adults (I loved that when I was a kid - although I think I was a bit older...)

[Anonymous]

It'll be exciting to find out in 20 years, won't it? But I care so much more about what kind of person you'll be than how you'll look. Do you think you'll be assertive? A critical thinker? Kind?