This is why MOMs are the ones who are suffering

[Anonymous]

I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is frustrating. It would annoy me too. But I wouldn't call this a MOM vs DAD problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

When DH does stuff like this, I tell him that he needs to be the "bad guy" and oversee having it redone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

When DH does stuff like this, I tell him that he needs to be the "bad guy" and oversee having it redone.

If the solution is mathematically sound, there is no need to redo.

[Anonymous]

He took care of it. Stop complaining and let him do it his way. You are the problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

I do agree with this, absolutely, but at this point I just don't want my kid to get dinged by her teacher because she did the problem "incorrectly". She got a bad score on a math quiz last week because it was in Google forms and she added context instead of just typing in the answer, so Google marked several answers as incorrect. The teacher apparently didn't look at the answers, only the scores (yes, we did email the teacher about that, but haven't heard back).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

It sounds like you don't have a kid in DL right now or you wouldn't type this. You don't get credit if you don't show your work and have it line up with the lesson.

Plus if you know anything about the differences in the way math was taught during OP's DH's elementary years and now you would never say that doing it dad's way was "understand[ing] how math works" and common core is "memoriz[ing] a single solution." That's completely backwards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

When DH does stuff like this, I tell him that he needs to be the "bad guy" and oversee having it redone.

If the solution is mathematically sound, there is no need to redo.

I guess if your kid failing their assignment is a thing you'd put up with to placate your DH's laziness this could be true.

[Anonymous]

Poor guy. People like OP are never happy, never satisfied.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

It sounds like you don't have a kid in DL right now or you wouldn't type this. You don't get credit if you don't show your work and have it line up with the lesson.

Plus if you know anything about the differences in the way math was taught during OP's DH's elementary years and now you would never say that doing it dad's way was "understand[ing] how math works" and common core is "memoriz[ing] a single solution." That's completely backwards.

Actually, I do have kids in DL. The 'my way or the higway' approach to math has been around longer than you think. My teachers didn't like alternative solutions either, but, frankly, 'credit' was never much concern. If you think common core teaches anything beyond a single solution approach you are delusional.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

It sounds like you don't have a kid in DL right now or you wouldn't type this. You don't get credit if you don't show your work and have it line up with the lesson.

Plus if you know anything about the differences in the way math was taught during OP's DH's elementary years and now you would never say that doing it dad's way was "understand[ing] how math works" and common core is "memoriz[ing] a single solution." That's completely backwards.

Actually, I do have kids in DL. The 'my way or the higway' approach to math has been around longer than you think. My teachers didn't like alternative solutions either, but, frankly, 'credit' was never much concern. If you think common core teaches anything beyond a single solution approach you are delusional.

Common core is not based on memorization. It's based on understanding how the math works, behind the numbers.

Okay, if you're fine with your kid getting a zero on an assignment they completed and turned in in order to stick it to the man or be the cool chick who dgaf about her lazy husband, we just have different priorities. And that's fine!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

I'm going to respecfully disagree. It is just good practice to teach multiple methods for solving math problems. Do you want your kid to understand how math works in general or do you want your kid to memorize a single solution?

It sounds like you don't have a kid in DL right now or you wouldn't type this. You don't get credit if you don't show your work and have it line up with the lesson.

Plus if you know anything about the differences in the way math was taught during OP's DH's elementary years and now you would never say that doing it dad's way was "understand[ing] how math works" and common core is "memoriz[ing] a single solution." That's completely backwards.

Actually, I do have kids in DL. The 'my way or the higway' approach to math has been around longer than you think. My teachers didn't like alternative solutions either, but, frankly, 'credit' was never much concern. If you think common core teaches anything beyond a single solution approach you are delusional.

"Common core" isn't a math curriculum. My kid's school uses Eureka, and it absolutely teaches multiple methods for solving a problem (and for developing number sense), and, where the problem says to use a specific method, you have to show that you are using that method or you don't get full credit. (There are also problems that tell the student to use any method.) AND it will make it harder down the road, because they circle back to the methods and concepts.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old is your DD? I haven't helped either of my kids since they started DL in the spring. Mine are 9 and 12.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I asked my husband to help my child with her math homework because I had a meeting. He didn't watch the instructions, he didn't look at the written instructions, he just told DD how he thought she should do it. She got the right answer, but the show your work part was completely different from what she learned in today's math lesson (I sit in the next room, I heard part of the lesson)! He didn't take the time to listen to the instructions, he didn't ask DD what she learned in today's lesson, he just plowed ahead and told her how to do it his way. He doesn't get that we have to reinforce the lessons that the teacher is teaching. I'm so annoyed because it just ends up confusing DD more and more, and then I turn into the bad guy because I asked her to do it over the way she learned in today's lesson. So annoying!!!!

When DH does stuff like this, I tell him that he needs to be the "bad guy" and oversee having it redone.

If the solution is mathematically sound, there is no need to redo.

I don't necessarily agree with it, but the purpose of math assignments these days is often to teach a specific approach to solving a problem. If you used a different approach but got the same answer, it doesn't mean you completed the assignment.