When you just can't agree on a name
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Anonymous
| DH has a few names he really likes. I have a few names I really like. They're all roughly the same "style" (we're not talking Brayden and Beauregard) but there is zero overlap. How do we solve this. |
Anonymous
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Lots of options:
Keep looking. Might there be another kid? If so one gets first name on this one, other gets middle name and switch for the next kid. Wait until you’re in labor and when he’s feeling sorry for you because of the pain, ask him to let you choose. Tell him he gets last name so you get first, or vice versa (men don’t like to give up the last name so you don’t have to mean it). |
Anonymous
+1 to all of this, but also, set it aside for a few weeks and come back with fresh eyes. You might find you like each other's choices better with a little distance. Scour your family trees for something meaningful. |
Anonymous
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Go through the social security top 1000 together, with lower standards. Both like a name? It goes on the list. You don't have to love it.
That should give you a short list of at least a couple names, and maybe even a few dozen. |
Anonymous
| You don't have to name the baby before you leave the hospital. They will push you to, but you don't have to. We didn't. Our second baby didn't get a name until she was 6 days old. |
Anonymous
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You leave it up to DCUM.
Give us your top 3 and your Dh's top 3--and let us decide! |
Anonymous
| You'll know better when the baby arrives |
Anonymous
| Go with one you really like. That sounds selfish. But it probably means more to you than it does to him. I went with the one that my husband wanted and I regret it. I think if we had gone with my option he would have grown to like the name very quickly and been over it in a couple weeks. I just dont think it was as big of a deal to him. Its been 2 years and I still think about the name I wanted with a sting of sadness. |
Anonymous
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Get chart paper.
Write every name that you like and he likes on the paper. Over time, use them when talking about baby. Look at them written. We did absolute veto meaning if one person was no then it was crossed off. If we thought of a new name, we added it. We started VERY far apart. I actual said no verbally to a name but put it on the chart and left it there. That ended up being the name we loved at the end. Time and space and playing around helped. Also names I thought I loved ended up getting crossed off by me because I ended up hating them. |
Anonymous
| DH was stuck on Sophia and while I liked the name, it was a total veto in my book based on the popularity. He kept saying Sophia and I kept giving him other options. He finally caved during delivery when my doctor said, “do you have any idea how many Sophia’s I’ve delivered in the last four years?!” We went with his next favorite of my options but I chose her nickname. |
Anonymous
| Whatever name he likes, tell him it’s trashy. Or slutty. |
Anonymous
| Are you delivering next week or do you have 6 months to mull things over? If there's time, I agree with posters to make a visual list and just add anything and everything to it and let your brain process it for a while. |
Anonymous
| One of you gets to choose the first name and the other one gets to choose the middle name. |
Anonymous
| I’m due in two months. We’ve been talking about it SERIOUSLY since we found out the sex but we have always known we were far apart in these names. Our other kids were easy to name with names we agreed on and loved. |
Anonymous
| My husband and I downloaded the Kinder app and we ended up having more names in common than I thought. |