husband taking hot baths... ugh!

[Anonymous]

My DH and I have been ttc for almost one year.. he's of the mindset that "let's not focus too much on it and just see what happens".. but over the weekend he took a hot bath and told me it wasn't that hot.. although his face was beat red for almost an hour after. When I confronted him on it, he got defensive and said it wasn't that hot.. anyone else dealing with a husband who just doesn't understand the importance of these things? I'm about to make an appt with a fertility specialist and know I'll have to drag him there. Although he really wants another child, I think he's in a bit of denial over the difficulties we're having ttc (we were lucky w/#1 and had no problems). ugh!

[Anonymous]

Let the doctor tell him what to avoid. If he's like mine, he will "rebel" all the more if you do. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

one hot bath won't cause infertility, but nagging will kill the urge to do the deed that will help your cause.

[Anonymous]

An RE will have him submit a sperm sample. That can be plenty humbling for a lot of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I confronted him on it, he got defensive

No sh!t.

You must try to avoid making his life a nightmare. TTC doesn't need to be this stressful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I confronted him on it, he got defensive

No sh!t.

You must try to avoid making his life a nightmare. TTC doesn't need to be this stressful.

yea i agree, ttc is already extremely difficult - as you will find once you get deeper in to the process with fertility treatments.
give him a break....and i agree when he has to give his sperm sample the RE or urologist will hopefully go over with him certain precautions he needs to take...

[Anonymous]

Were you ovulating over the weekend? I don't think one hot bath is going to effect your TT&C unless it happens within a few days of ovulation.

[Anonymous]

Turn down your water heater

[Anonymous]

I hear you. My DH won't even consider some of the things I've read - like taking vitamins, cutting back on alcohol, not keeping the laptop on his lap, etc. It took us 7 mo for #1, 9 mo for #2 which ended in m/c, and we're 6 mo in to this again. I just feel like if he took a touch of interest in this and invested in trying to keep himself healthy this might go a little faster. Of course, maybe that's not true either. But it really irks me that he takes this laissez-faire attitude - and he tells me no one wants me to get PG more than he does (he sees a second child as our last and wants to get those early years over!). Argh!