Husband is Annoying Me

[Anonymous]

My husband is a super sweet guy but he is annoying me. We recently found out we are expecting our first child and he has gone crazy. We mostly ate healthy with takeout 1-2 times week. He is the cook and has been making only super healthy and nutritious food for the baby. He will remind if I eat a piece of candy or order fries that “ it’s not healthy for the baby. There is zero nutritional value”. I know he means well and wants the baby to be healthy, but it’s super annoying. I went through a phase of eating just whatever I could to eat because I was so sick, and he would just remind me it’s not healthy for the baby. How do I not kill him? Joking but serious..

[Anonymous]

He’s afraid you will get fat. Tell him to shut up.

[Anonymous]

“Bob, I love you with all my heart. And I’m so excited to begin this new chapter with you. And if you make one more comment about what I’m eating, I’m going to slap you. I’m serious. I need you to step back.”
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[Anonymous]

You need to nip in bud, this is controlling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Bob, I love you with all my heart. And I’m so excited to begin this new chapter with you. And if you make one more comment about what I’m eating, I’m going to slap you. I’m serious. I need you to step back.”
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I approve this message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s afraid you will get fat. Tell him to shut up.

This is what it is about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s afraid you will get fat. Tell him to shut up.

This is what it is about.

The fatties are weighing in.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He is no controlling. We have been together for 5 years and he has never been controlling. He really only wants what's best for the baby and me. He isn't worried about me gaining weight. He has been trying to get me to gain more because he thinks I should be bigger by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is no controlling. We have been together for 5 years and he has never been controlling. He really only wants what's best for the baby and me. He isn't worried about me gaining weight. He has been trying to get me to gain more because he thinks I should be bigger by now.

Okay, fine. Whatever.
So what are you going to do? If you choose not to tell him to stop, you forfeit the right to complain or feel annoyed. Time to step up.

[Anonymous]

You posted before.

Are you pregnant again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is no controlling. We have been together for 5 years and he has never been controlling. He really only wants what's best for the baby and me. He isn't worried about me gaining weight. He has been trying to get me to gain more because he thinks I should be bigger by now.

My ex did that...also worried I was not eating enough. It was the beginning of being controlling. I gained 12 lbs in the first 20 weeks and got yelled at by the doctor. I'm divorced. You need to nip this in the bud now. Tell him you are being healthy and stop telling you want to eat.

[Anonymous]

Divorce!!! He’s a control freak.

[Anonymous]

Tell him it doesn’t matter if you eat a few things with no nutritional value since you are getting all of the important nutrients from the amazing food he is making. If that doesn’t work tell him to STFU and buy your own takeout daily just to make a point.

[Anonymous]

My first thought was that since he is kind of a bystander in the pregnancy, he feels like he’s contributing when he gives you advice and reminders about nutrition for the baby. You should acknowledge his caring concern, and then gently but firmly point out to him that you are feeling nagged. Pregnant women all through space and time have eaten all kinds of stuff. Junk how and again isn’t going to make a difference, but stress from suppressing your annoyance is definitely bad for the baby. If you can pull your ob/gyn aside and ask her thoughts on occasional indulgences, if her response is helpful to you you could tell your DH what she has to say on the subject. Congratulations on the pregnancy!