MIL bought a gun

[Anonymous]

My grandmother in law confided in me that with the help of her boyfriend my MIL bought a gun. She doesn't have it yet. My husband and I are not unreasonably freaked out. She is the kind of person to leave needles for her cats medication in drawers the kids can reach so I am not remotely confident this will end well. She has been increasingly convinced a civil war s coming. We are obviously not going to stay at her house anymore but how do we talk to her about this?

[Anonymous]

Talk to her about what? About not doing it or about securing it safely?

Doesn't sound like either will work, honestly. Can she travel? If so, invite her to visit with you instead of vice versa. Or bring a gun safe when you travel to her and ask that she use it while you are there.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean she bought it but doesn't have it yet? Did she buy it online and Amazon is shipping it?

I don't believe in using guns and won't spend time in a home where they are kept. If I know someone keeps a gun on them they are not welcomed into my home with it.

So I'd just say, "We'd love to see you but we don't go into homes where there are guns. If you leave it home, you're welcome to come here."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she bought it but doesn't have it yet? Did she buy it online and Amazon is shipping it?

I don't believe in using guns and won't spend time in a home where they are kept. If I know someone keeps a gun on them they are not welcomed into my home with it.

So I'd just say, "We'd love to see you but we don't go into homes where there are guns. If you leave it home, you're welcome to come here."

We are staying with her now. Her boyfriend has it currently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she bought it but doesn't have it yet? Did she buy it online and Amazon is shipping it?

I don't believe in using guns and won't spend time in a home where they are kept. If I know someone keeps a gun on them they are not welcomed into my home with it.

So I'd just say, "We'd love to see you but we don't go into homes where there are guns. If you leave it home, you're welcome to come here."

I feel the same way. I am not okay with her having one. I have 3 children.. 3, 6, and 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandmother in law confided in me that with the help of her boyfriend my MIL bought a gun. She doesn't have it yet. My husband and I are not unreasonably freaked out. She is the kind of person to leave needles for her cats medication in drawers the kids can reach so I am not remotely confident this will end well. She has been increasingly convinced a civil war s coming. We are obviously not going to stay at her house anymore but how do we talk to her about this?

Your husband needs to have a conversation with his mother about this. Is this a straw purchase? Does she have paperwork to own and carry it legally? Has she taken a gun safety course? What is the deal with the boyfriend? Does he have a gun himself? Does he have a criminal record? Don’t take her word for it get a background check on him. This is too important for your husband to be silent.
There are a lot of issues here.
And no one should be over at her house because of the gun or in her car or the boyfriends place or car. And don’t be surprised when she visits if she tries to bring the gun with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she bought it but doesn't have it yet? Did she buy it online and Amazon is shipping it?

I don't believe in using guns and won't spend time in a home where they are kept. If I know someone keeps a gun on them they are not welcomed into my home with it.

So I'd just say, "We'd love to see you but we don't go into homes where there are guns. If you leave it home, you're welcome to come here."

We are staying with her now. Her boyfriend has it currently.

I just read this. Holding some else’s gun is probably illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean she bought it but doesn't have it yet? Did she buy it online and Amazon is shipping it?

I don't believe in using guns and won't spend time in a home where they are kept. If I know someone keeps a gun on them they are not welcomed into my home with it.

So I'd just say, "We'd love to see you but we don't go into homes where there are guns. If you leave it home, you're welcome to come here."

We are staying with her now. Her boyfriend has it currently.

I just read this. Holding some else’s gun is probably illegal.

Doubt that unless it is associated with you or the other person being banned from firearm possession. Federal law certainly allows you to lend your weapon to someone else unless you know they cannot have a gun.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to show you the safe where she stores it and remind her to always remove the bullets in the home.

Idiots who know nothing about firearms and purchase them for silly reasons are all of the stories that you hear in the news about gun accidents. People who actually know how to use a gun would never make these ignorant and careless mistakes.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean about having needles where the kids can reach them? Does she watch anybody’s kids?

[Anonymous]

If she keeps the cats needles where your kids can reach them during visits, she will probably keep the gun in an unsafe place as well. If your.kids see her, you need to supervise them at all times, and preferably see her outside of her house.

There is nothing you can do about her getting a gun. That's up to her.

[Anonymous]

As long as she owns a gun, your children will not be in her house. Sorry!

She is also not allowed to bring the gun to your house or when you meet out and about.

No need to "talk to her about this" - you can't change her mind, you can only change her behavior. Let her know that's your policy, be firm but kind, and follow through.

[Anonymous]

Grew up in an area where guns were very common and the norm. You ask to see the safe when you go. If she's a responsible gun owner, you don't need to be freaked out. If she's not responsible, that's a totally different story.

[Anonymous]

Your comment about the cat needles is strange. Unless she is storing uncapped used needles in drawers, which I doubt it, where else would she store needles for her cats medicine in her own house.

[Anonymous]

Op, either your kids are young enough where they shouldn't be wandering around someone's house without supervision or they are old to know not to touch needles in a drawer. You seem a bit ridiculous