Boyfriend Wants Too Much Sex.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year. Things are going really well. I’m super happy but I’m finding it hard to keep up with his sex drive. I’m a very high sex drive person and love daily sex, but he wants it multiple times a day. He will usually want it in the morning and at night. We are very into exploring and my body is so sore after sex. I would be more happy with every other day or once a night. I have told him before how it’s crazy how much sex he wants and he just laughs and says it’s because I turn him on too much. I don’t want him to think he’s not satisfying me or that I don’t enjoy sex with him. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings that I don’t want to have this much sex?

[Anonymous]

He is physically hurting you and making your sore. Go ahead and be completely honest with him and it's fine if his feelings are hurt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year. Things are going really well. I’m super happy but I’m finding it hard to keep up with his sex drive. I’m a very high sex drive person and love daily sex, but he wants it multiple times a day. He will usually want it in the morning and at night. We are very into exploring and my body is so sore after sex. I would be more happy with every other day or once a night. I have told him before how it’s crazy how much sex he wants and he just laughs and says it’s because I turn him on too much. I don’t want him to think he’s not satisfying me or that I don’t enjoy sex with him. How can I tell him without hurting his feelings that I don’t want to have this much sex?

Tell him now so he can RUN!

[Anonymous]

find some way to satisfy his needs that doesn't leave you sore. Otherwise he'll resent you, turn to porn and masturbation, step out, or move on. I'm sure he does things for you that he'd otherwise rather not. Libido mismatch ends relationships.

[Anonymous]

Use your words and lube.

It sounds like it’s a quality issue not a quantity one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is physically hurting you and making your sore. Go ahead and be completely honest with him and it's fine if his feelings are hurt

This.

How old are you? When I was in my teens and early twenties trying to keep up with my boyfriends demand I thought I was abnormal because I would get sore and sometimes get utis from the frequent sex. I was not abnormal. Many women get sore or utis from sex twice a day, or even everyday.

Also make sure you are using enough lube. Try a silicon brand.

[Anonymous]

It is okay to "hurt his feelings." He is hurting you, and you have the right to say no to sex that makes you physically uncomfortable. If he's not okay with that (and with sex once a day!), he's not the right guy for you.

[Anonymous]

I'd be worried he'd struggle with postpartum cheating. What does he do when you have your period ? Twice a day once in a while is great but not every day.

[Anonymous]

Run, it's going to get old soon. Nobody needs sot much sex that another person ends up sore (numb soon).

[Anonymous]

After a year you need to be able to communicate clearly. It's pretty important for any relationship. Your way of telling him it's too much for you isn't clear.

[Anonymous]

Yuck. You’re not compatible, that’s way too
Much.

[Anonymous]

Do you live together?

[Anonymous]

This sounds oddly familiar

[Anonymous]

Had too much sex a few days into our honeymoon and ended up with a UTI

[Anonymous]

Do not marry him.