Am I off-base in confronting sibling?
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Anonymous
| Sibling is selling condo and moving in with parents next week. She regularly interacts with her neighbor in her condo building that refuses to wear a mask. Last time I was there helping her, he walked in and she introduced him and declared "and he doesn't wear a mask." I am not in a vulnerable population group and was wearing a mask, so I was not particularly concerned. This was also weeks ago, so I didn't say anything. But I know for a fact she has been interacting with him regularly, knowing she is moving in with my parents soon. I told her I thought it was reckless. Am I off base? |
Anonymous
| Did you jump straight to confrontation and tell her she was reckless, or did you ask her questions, etc. first? I'd have started with asking her if she was worried about catching anything from Neighbor, since he doesn't wear a mask when he's out and about, or if she had considered whether she might cut back on contact with him before moving in with your parents. No point in being confrontational right off the bat. |
Anonymous
| Talk to your parents. |
Anonymous
| Refuses to wear a mask where? When interacting with people like your sister or actually out in public stores, etc. breaking state regulations? I don’t wear a mask to interact with friends anymore either. But definitely in stores or anywhere out in public. Like PP said, no need to be confrontational. You are all adults here. |
Anonymous
| If she refused to wear a mask your parents already know this and are (stupidly) accepting the risk. You were right to confront, but sadly, being stupid is a source of pride these days. |
Anonymous
| I agree with you, OP. Her behavior sounds reckless and you were right to say something to her. I think you need to say something to your parents, too. If she is moving in with them (I presume because she has to for her financial reasons) then they have the right to require her to act more prudently. Their age presumably puts them in a higher risk category and your sister needs to modify her behavior so that her recklessness doesn't endanger them. |
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| Are they both not wearing masks? Or just this other person? |
Anonymous
| Assuming your parents are informed, unimpaired, adults then you can say something to them about your concerns and ask what their plan is for staying safe. Then you pretty much have to respect their rights to make their own decisions - whether you (or we) agree with them or not. |
Anonymous
Well, they were not informed that she was hanging out with people that did not wear masks. |
Anonymous
| You can’t control anyone whether it’s your parents, siblings or a neighbor. What exactly do you want to gain by confronting anyone? They’re going to socialize the only thing is they’ll just keep it from you. |
Anonymous
No, but she can inform parents about siblings recklessness so that her parents can keep themselves safe! |
Anonymous
| Similar situation here, no progress. |
Anonymous
OK so let’s say she informs them. She’s already moving in so what else can the parents possibly do? Ask the sister not to move in? |