FTM Miscarriage Question

[Anonymous]

I am newly pregnant and genuinely confused by what seems to be super conflicting information. I keep seeing about how common miscarriage is (I have probably freaked myself out!), but then I am also seeing all these stats that chances of miscarriage is SO much lower especially after 6 weeks. I have seen this link shared a bunch - https://datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.

It feels like I know so many women who have had miscarriages, but then I turn around and see all these articles that after 8 weeks, the chances are so low? Maybe I am a little clueless because I found out about my pregnancy at 6 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Probably because the first sonogram is done between 6 and 8 weeks. They can usually find a heartbeat then, once a heartbeat is found the chance of miscarriage goes down significantly.

[Anonymous]

Try to enjoy the excitement, and don't borrow worry. Worrying about having a miscarriage helps nothing. The best thing you can do is take it easy and take care of yourself - rest, eat well, hydrate, and relax. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

You need to shift your focus to the baby growing inside you. If you miscarry there is likely you could not have done anything about it. Please focus on the positive.

[Anonymous]

The data is correct. Miscarriage is SO common, especially in the first 6 weeks. The further along you get, the less likely the miscarriage chance. I think it goes down to something like 5% at 13 weeks.

[Anonymous]

I know it is stressful OP but you are in good company. A lot of the issue is that we just know a lot about early miscarriage now and we didn't used to because it used to be that if you miscarried before 6 weeks, you might not even know it. Women used to think they'd just gotten a "late period" and then they'd try again. Now we know better but it increases the stress.

The good news is that it's also easier to confirm a healthy pregnancy than it used to be. We can actually hear heartbeats much earlier than they used to be able to, and yes, once you hear that, your risks of miscarriage go way down.

I never totally relaxed during my pregnancy -- I was an older mom and I worried basically until my daughter was in my arms. It's hard when you are a FTM. But we all go through it.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you all. My husband and I had planned to start trying at the end of September for me to realize I was already pregnant, and it just felt a little too good to be true. I will focus on where I am currently. Thanks again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably because the first sonogram is done between 6 and 8 weeks. They can usually find a heartbeat then, once a heartbeat is found the chance of miscarriage goes down significantly.

My OB actually refused to do my first sonogram (or first appointment) until I was 10 weeks in order to ensure that they would be able to find a heartbeat on the first try, because she didn't want to increase stress by conducting a 6 week sonogram and having difficulties finding the heartbeat.

This was an OB that specialized in higher risk pregnancies, but that included anyone over the age of 35. She told me that she didn't consider a patient actually pregnant until that heartbeat sonogram, because she found it helped her patients move forward to try again if they spent those early weeks in a state of not knowing. It sounds unkind, but it was actually really helpful for me to think "well maybe I am and maybe I'm not" up until I heard the heartbeat. I think if you are dealing with infertility issues, it's a good practice to cultivate because it keeps things on a more even keel instead of a constant roller coaster.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately most people I know miscarried after 6 weeks. Really less than 6 weeks is more of a chemical pregnancy.