Noncommital DH

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what to do (if anything) about this...my DH is extremely passive and noncommital. For example, he kept getting calls from some air duct cleaning company for them to come clean our ducts. He asked me about it when they first called, and I said to say we aren't interested. He tells the man we have to check our schedule and get back with him. This same saga went on for over a month - the man would call every week and my DH would give a passive answer and tell the guy to call back. Finally, I answer the call, and I politely tell the man we are not interested. Turns out the guy was crazy and started yelling at me for wasting his time, but if my DH had just said NO from the beginning, I wouldn't be getting disrespected by some random person. Another example is we were interested in a particular car, so we inquired on a website. Turns out, after seeing different cars, we are no longer interested in it. The guy calls to set up an appointment and DH schedules one for Saturday. He knows damn well we aren't going! Why not just tell him we're not interested? These types of things make me feel like my DH isn't a man who can handle business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure what to do (if anything) about this...my DH is extremely passive and noncommital. For example, he kept getting calls from some air duct cleaning company for them to come clean our ducts. He asked me about it when they first called, and I said to say we aren't interested. He tells the man we have to check our schedule and get back with him. This same saga went on for over a month - the man would call every week and my DH would give a passive answer and tell the guy to call back. Finally, I answer the call, and I politely tell the man we are not interested. Turns out the guy was crazy and started yelling at me for wasting his time, but if my DH had just said NO from the beginning, I wouldn't be getting disrespected by some random person. Another example is we were interested in a particular car, so we inquired on a website. Turns out, after seeing different cars, we are no longer interested in it. The guy calls to set up an appointment and DH schedules one for Saturday. He knows damn well we aren't going! Why not just tell him we're not interested? These types of things make me feel like my DH isn't a man who can handle business.

He is probably too distracted by your gargantuan paragraphs to be able to focus on "handling business".

[Anonymous]

If your husband answers the phone who cares if he wastes his own time? His problem, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Plus, it is telemarketer. Who cares if they disrespect you? Do you need a stranger's -- and a stranger who is trying to sell you something you don't want -- respect?

You can't change your DH. You can change you.

[Anonymous]

Annoying, but these aren't your problems to solve, so just leave it to him to deal with them.