I snooped and didn't find anything

[Anonymous]

My DH has been in his phone constantly over the past month, I mean literally from the time he gets up, until bedtime. He is generally very affectionate and talkative and he has been extremely distant. I talked to him about it and he said I made him feel guilty, and he can't help it how crazy his workload is right now. I was constantly seeing two girls names pop up on his screen and started to get suspicious. He left his ipad home yesterday, and I decided to check. He was having constant with these two young women, tons and tons of texts and emails and group chats, but it was all work-related and professional. I am not generally paranoid, but the red flags were there. I feel like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

He let you snoop.

[Anonymous]

It’s definitely weird that the two work colleagues he’s constantly texting are two young woman. Don’t have any advice though.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on my phone constantly recently too - just a bad habit of trying to distract myself during this quarantine time!

[Anonymous]

I mean, isn’t that how it starts? Innocent? He is so overworked and tired that he doesn’t have time to talk to you but can talk to them from sun up to sun down? Sorry, but it’s a red flag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, isn’t that how it starts? Innocent? He is so overworked and tired that he doesn’t have time to talk to you but can talk to them from sun up to sun down? Sorry, but it’s a red flag

It's a red flag if you are a nagging busybody that doesn't trust their husband. It is perfectly fine if you have a decent relationship and treat each other like grown adults.

[Anonymous]

One word: Skype.

I always had my spouse’s email password, phone password. He was very transparent.

He would go into Skype messaging in private mode and leave no trace. They messaged through their Skype accounts which left no trace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, isn’t that how it starts? Innocent? He is so overworked and tired that he doesn’t have time to talk to you but can talk to them from sun up to sun down? Sorry, but it’s a red flag

but OP said the texts weren't chatty, that they were work-related conversations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One word: Skype.

I always had my spouse’s email password, phone password. He was very transparent.

He would go into Skype messaging in private mode and leave no trace. They messaged through their Skype accounts which left no trace.

He doesn't have Skype, the only app I see him using is Group.Me with coworkers and I was able to look at those.

[Anonymous]

I wihs mine would hook up with smb and go away. Good man but not for me. Sits at home, so no chance of hooking up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been on my phone constantly recently too - just a bad habit of trying to distract myself during this quarantine time!

This. Definitely not cheating.

[Anonymous]

Thank goodness you're his problem and you're not out here dating giving men headaches en masse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One word: Skype.

I always had my spouse’s email password, phone password. He was very transparent.

He would go into Skype messaging in private mode and leave no trace. They messaged through their Skype accounts which left no trace.

He doesn't have Skype, the only app I see him using is Group.Me with coworkers and I was able to look at those.

Mine ever had Skype on his phone when he wasn’t actively using it.

They just delete and reload when needed.

[Anonymous]

So I suppose you are going to tell him that you snooped on his work conversations and apologize for being nosy and paranoid?

[Anonymous]

It was a set up. After you brought to his attention that he is acting differently he suddenly leaves his iPad open and it only contained innocent convo? Yet he said he is so busy that he can’t be affectionate and talkative with you but can be with other women? Yea, ok