Moody Spouse

[Anonymous]

How do you deal with a moody spouse? Do you ignore them? Try to get them in a more pleasant mood?

[Anonymous]

I've tried to help -- but it never works. I've tried to be sensitive -- but it doesn't help. I've settled on ignore and enjoy myself, and that is the best practice for me.

[Anonymous]

Ignore is the best practice for me too. If there are kids, keep them away.

[Anonymous]

Not your job to get someone else in a good mood. I also think it’s manipulative of the moody person to be that needy.

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to learn how to best deal with this too. It's hard for me to ignore, I tend to want everyone to be happy, if not "pleasant", but I also know that my trying to make everything better is just creating an even worse issue with my DH being rewarded for being in a bad mood. I need to learn to ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with a moody spouse? Do you ignore them? Try to get them in a more pleasant mood?

Ask them to do something you think is fun. Doing something nice for someone else is a mood booster.

[Anonymous]

I’m moody as hell right now with everything going on. It’s a LOT. I’d just give him/her some grace realizing it could be situational.

[Anonymous]

I acknowledge that I notice their feelings but don’t take responsibility for it or try to do a cheer jig and soft shoe shuffle to make them smile. I might jokingly say something to help break the ice, like

“I can tell there is something bothering you. If you want to talk about it let me know. Otherwise I am going to go hang out with my book so if you breathe fire the pages won’t singe.”

[Anonymous]

Chocolate, music, alone time, browsing and reading helps when I’m moody. If I want something (like a hug, or space) I will ask for it. Sometimes I get it, sometimes I don’t. Either way, I deal and move on.