MIL Visiting

[Anonymous]

I just had a baby and my MIL wants to come stay with us for a couple of weeks. She has been social distancing and practicing all safety guidelines. We have been doing the same. Would you let a grandparent come stay for a couple of weeks during this time?

[Anonymous]

How is she traveling to come to you? We're high risk so are not flying right now.

[Anonymous]

In other words, ^^ I wouldn't let anyone who has flown come into our house, especially with a new baby. If she drives, fine. Train??? maybe if she goes business class and wears mask. Ask your ped.

[Anonymous]

OP here. A little more information. I have two week old. This is her first grandchild. She only lives a couple of hours away and will be driving. She will be staying at our place in the guest bedroom.

[Anonymous]

I would do this (assuming you and your spouse both want her to come). Two hour drive means one stop at most, so not much risk.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. She should be able to drive two hours without stopping and if both sides have been quarantining there is really no risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. A little more information. I have two week old. This is her first grandchild. She only lives a couple of hours away and will be driving. She will be staying at our place in the guest bedroom.

Of course she can come.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, I would let her come.

[Anonymous]

Do you want her coming? Covid or not, I wouldn't want anyone for that long. My own mother I would love, for a week at most.

Know your own mind Op

[Anonymous]

As long as she is kind and respectful to you she should be welcomed.

[Anonymous]

Yes. And I'm very risk averse.

[Anonymous]

As long as she got her Tdap (or Dtap) and flu vaccine at least a week before coming.

[Anonymous]

COVID wise it sounds safe, but you should feel no pressure to have a long term visitor after having a baby if you don't want to. If its helpful, then great!

[Anonymous]

Is she helpful? Do you enjoy having her around?

The early weeks after the baby is born is just as much about tge mother. You need to recover, bond and care for your baby. If you prefer to not host houseguests that is completely valid. Two weeks is a long time under normal circumstances and it’s an eternity when you’re in a vulnerable state. However, if she’s helpful and you enjoy her company this time together can be a huge blessing. Be kind to yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As long as she got her Tdap (or Dtap) and flu vaccine at least a week before coming.

Yes, absolutely TDAP. You do NOT want a baby in the hospital for whooping cough!