Zero patience and emotional at 38 weeks

[Anonymous]

I am 38 weeks with my second (have a 3.5 year old), and I am really really struggling with keeping my emotions in check right now. I am usually a patient and even-keeled person - I don't think anyone would describe me as temperamental normally. But this past week I am flying off the handle. Granted, 3.5 DS is being really difficult right now; he's resisting doing virtual preK (which is less than ideal but we need to do it to hold our spot), and is having some kind of pooping regression and is refusing to go, in addition to just general non-compliance. But little things at work are also making me incredibly frustrated and I overreact. I became overwhelmed with anger yesterday when my boss emailed me an unreasonable request; normally I'd just roll my eyes and do it. I started crying when my husband made a snippy comment over something small. I don't remember being like this with my first, but granted, we were in much less stressful circumstances. Is this normal? Anything I can do to get this under control?

[Anonymous]

Oh honey yes.

First tell your DH the only person who gets to be an asshole right now is YOU. Because you have an entire OTHER PERSON inside you. He needs to suck it up and take some shit and be supportive while smiling.

Drop the pre-k video school nonsense. Set it up in the corner of the room where your kid is playing and stop forcing participation. Do whatever you need to do for attendance, and if it's more than "log on at this time", I'd put your DH in charge of doing those things. I wouldn't even involve your 3.5 year old.

Poop regression may get worse but just don't sweat it, it'll work out.

Try not to get fired and if you can afford it, maybe consider starting your maternity leave soon. At the very least, you should be passing stuff off at work because you could go into labor any minute at this point.

[Anonymous]

Yes. 2.5yo here. I found a WONDERFUL babysitter. She just cares for her own 3yo, a 2yo boy, and my daughter. I bring my daughter there 3 mornings a week 8am-12pm then she comes home and naps 1-3:30. It has been LIFECHANGING.

[Anonymous]

I could have written this. I'm 33 weeks and have a 3.5 year old at home. It has been tough for me. Hang in there. I am trying to wait and respond to things at work becasue I've found that I get overly upset about things. My mom is helping out with virtual pre-k, which is a huge relief. Hang in there.