Intimate time

[Anonymous]

With the pandemic and all this togetherness and no babysitters, how are you and your spouse carving out time for each other? How often is intimate time? I feel like we have even less time now and I am never in the mood. Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

So very tired...

[Anonymous]

Welp, don’t use the word “intimate”. That will quickly turn off your spouse.

[Anonymous]

2-3 days a week. In the morning/mid morning. DS is always happy for the extra electronic time. Sometimes we have sex at night, but usually we are just too tired.

[Anonymous]

We try to be intimate every day if we can. We were fighting a lot and found that this works better than marriage counseling, fighting fair, or dividing chores.

We usually talk after dinner while kids clean up (kids are in ES).

[Anonymous]

After they've gone to bed.

[Anonymous]

Once a week for us, during weekend naptime.

[Anonymous]

It's been so hard. Our kids are older (8 and 11) and we have a smallish house! We used to rely on periodic overnights alone while nearby grandparents babysat for the night, along with things like movie nights at the school where you could drop the kids for pizza and movie etc. Also sometimes we would both WFH while they were at school and find some time at lunch.

Now all of those are off the table. We have had some luck getting them to watch a movie in the basement while we have a few minutes upstairs. But our frequency has definitely gone down.

[Anonymous]

Cherish naptime while you have it.

[Anonymous]

2-3 times a week. Our kids are good about bedtime at around 8pm. I love a nice hot shower, often with my husband, as it really helps me unwind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cherish naptime while you have it.

Yep. We were more exhausted when kids were younger, but it's logistically harder when they are older to sneak off (especially if you are like us when one of us is a night owl and one a morning person).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2-3 days a week. In the morning/mid morning. DS is always happy for the extra electronic time. Sometimes we have sex at night, but usually we are just too tired.

Same. We've been trying for a second for almost 3 years, sigh, and have perfected the early AM "intimate time" routine. Turn on the TV, hand the kid a bagel or apple, and run back upstairs.