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17 year old daughter wants to stay over at a friends house during snow storm.
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Anonymous
| My 17 year old daughter wants to stay over at a friends house during snow storm. Generally we don't let her go out nearly as much as most teenagers, and she doesn't get into trouble. Her friend is here right now and will be driving her, but her friends house is way across town. My instinct is no. Would you allow it? |
Anonymous
Yes. If you are not comfy ask the friend to stay at your house. |
Anonymous
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I would allow it only if I felt comfortable leaving my daughter there 2 to 3 days. Do her friend's parents realize that it could be that many days?
And are your DD and her friend clear on that they can't drive anywhere these next few days? Given that they are 17, prob. not. |
Anonymous
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Yes.
At some point you have to trust your child to behave like a member of your household even when not there. If this is a friend you know, I'd go for it. Better the girls enjoy eachother's company than cause you grief for days on end. What's "way across town?" Across the metro area, or across someplace small. Now tell the girls to get a move on. It's snowing! |
Anonymous
| Yes, if you have spoken to friend's parents and know they'll be home. My teen daughter hates when I check with parents, but I remember my days as a teen. |
Anonymous
| You sound way to controlling. Don't you trust your daughter? How can she trusrt herself and develop self confidence? I know you are not thinking this, but the chances of your daughter going wild when she has freedom are very great. Poor kid. |
Anonymous
Yes, call the parents and check in with them. It feels awkward at first but I've learned to do it whenever I had a question about it. |
Anonymous
| For the blizzard of '96, my 4 best friends and I all camped out at one girl's house. We ended up being snowed in there for at least 5 days. It was a blast and I wouldn't trade those memories for the world. Her parents were saints for buying groceries for 5 teenage girls. As long as the friend and her parents are prepared for what could be up to a week-long slumber party, I say go for it. |
Anonymous
| My oldest is 16 and I would let him go after checking first with the friend's parents. BTW, we've had 2 of DS's friends here since 4 pm yeterday, and it's been fine. They had a snowball fight, took the dog for a walk, ate a lot of spaghetti, played cards, watched movies and camped out in the basement. It's been totally wholesome and retro, actually, and quite a relief that they can't drive anywhere! I'm just worried about running out of food . . . . |
Anonymous
| If the parents are home and driving conditions are okay, yes yes yes. |
Anonymous
This is so sad. She doesn't get into trouble and you think this is because you don't let her go out "nearly as much as most teenagers"? WOW, way to trust your kid. Agree with PP who said if you don't give her some freedom, as soon as she gets it she is going to go WILD. Hope you let her go! |
Anonymous
| Actually my friend with super strict parents was the wildest undergrad I know. I mean WILD. |