How to be have around angry and mean husband?

[Anonymous]

Husband is nice and normal sometimes, but other times becomes angry and mean (kind of like Jekyle and Hyde). Lots of yelling, arguing, and swearing. Do I give him space? Try to calm him down ? Just smile and agree with him? And what do latter? I find myself thinking that he will behave this way at any minute. He is hard to live with but I understand how much he hates how things have changed with all the COVID changes. It's also hard because we are home so much so maybe he will get better when this is over.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have kids get out.

[Anonymous]

Get put npw.

[Anonymous]

Is this a real post?

[Anonymous]

You don’t mind accepting abusive behavior? He’s not going to get better with time - he will get worse. Start making plans to get out, get your financial affairs in order and consult an attorney quietly. Why would you stay with a man who mistreats you?

[Anonymous]

Do the opposite of what you usually do and see what happens. Once my dh was starting up an anger rant with me while we were both moving around the house getting ready for work and I accidentally slammed a door on him. It was some time ago and I can't remember if we had windows open and the wind took it or if the ac clicked on, but it was a loud slam and it startled him back to normal behavior. He thought I did it on purpose. I used to try to appease him which didn't ever work.

[Anonymous]

This is my Dh. He has gotten so much worse every year we are married. I avoid him as much as possible. If we didn’t have a child, no way would I stay. Go if you can. It just gets worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is my Dh. He has gotten so much worse every year we are married. I avoid him as much as possible. If we didn’t have a child, no way would I stay. Go if you can. It just gets worse.

Because you have a child, you need to leave. Why would you want a kid in that environment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband is nice and normal sometimes, but other times becomes angry and mean (kind of like Jekyle and Hyde). Lots of yelling, arguing, and swearing. Do I give him space? Try to calm him down ? Just smile and agree with him? And what do latter? I find myself thinking that he will behave this way at any minute. He is hard to live with but I understand how much he hates how things have changed with all the COVID changes. It's also hard because we are home so much so maybe he will get better when this is over.

Is he yelling at or about you? Something you did or did not do?

Or just yelling about current events or work?