Just learned that my mom wants to move in temporarily. I end to explore independent care options.

[Anonymous]

My mom asked on Monday if she could stay for a couple of months. Due to prior abuse in childhood, it cannot be long term. She would be able to live independently, so a nice apartment in DC would be good
How do I begin to navigate this process?

[Anonymous]

There are private furnished rentals in D.C.

If you have like $5K a month to spend, I'd - sign a month-long furnished lease and tour apartment buildings during that time.

30 days at the AKA D.C. furnished apartments is $4,800 including parking. Since business travel is dead - they'll probably be willing to negotiate a flat-rate if you're looking for a 30-day package too. So maybe $4,000 even?

https://www.stayaka.com/

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the information. I am looking for something less expensive.

[Anonymous]

You may want to contact the local Office on Aging in DC or possibly md or va locality that is closest to you with public transportation if Mom does not drive.
See what they might recommend for senior living in the range if a budget you would have to work with. It is likely DC would be more expensive. Also contact apartment rental companies to get an idea of rents in the area fir a one bedroom or possibly studio if her income is limited.

You may need to consider carefully if you are even emotionally up to having her stay with you at all. If you have children in the home, I think you have to put their needs first. On looking I found SeniorHousingNet,com with listings for 95 senior lower income options. Again a few miles out of DC in Maryland in particular might get you more reasonable options. If you think your mother might need some level of social services, then I would take that route now and see if there less expensive senior housing with supports as needed. It does seem like a good starting point.

[Anonymous]

OP, if your mother was involved in your abuse or was your abuser, please don't do this. Your first obligation is to your own mental health and your kids, if you have them. Even if she stays somewhere else, will she expect to spend every day with you? Then you still have a problem. Please take care of yourself. And my apologies if I've misunderstood your situation.

[Anonymous]

Why not do Airbnb?? $5000 per month? WTH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not do Airbnb?? $5000 per month? WTH?

An AirBnB for a month in the city is going to be more expensive unless a deal is negotiated. They're usually $140 - $160/night plus the cleaning fees and administration fees which are usually about 5% of the total.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the options.

[Anonymous]

If she abused you, she should be staying with you. It should not even be an option.

[Anonymous]

How long would she be staying? Does she need to be in a senior living place or is any apartment okay? How much are you looking to spend?

[Anonymous]

Why does she need to stay with you? Why can’t she just move right into a new place? Can she afford the rent? Where is she moving from?

What is your budget? Can you narrow down your geographic area a bit?

This sounds bad for your mental and emotional well being. It’s also opening up a huge risk that a couple of months will drag on and turn into much longer. Have her move directly into her own place, OP. Please.

[Anonymous]

Once anyone moves in with you it is nearly impossible to move them out without tremendous drama and heartache if that person decides she doesn't want to leave. Boundaries are essential, especially in case with a history of abuse. You are asking for trouble without them.