Temper tatrums and tears now at home instead of school

[Anonymous]

Makes sense to me

[Anonymous]

This is pre-k at our school. This goes on for the first few weeks.

[Anonymous]

If my kid was crying and feeling frustrated I would not be interested in filming it to put on Twitter to make a political statement.

[Anonymous]

This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Awe poor guy. Although yes there are tears at normal school, these times are especially tough. Lately my 2nd grader has started crying daily because of all of the back to school chatter.

It’s tough for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my kid was crying and feeling frustrated I would not be interested in filming it to put on Twitter to make a political statement.

Me either. And honestly if he wasn't getting much out of the online K program, I wouldn't push it on him. If you are there anyway, you don't need an online program to teach your kid to read, write, tell time and basic math. If the kid likes the online class, great. If not, it cannot possibly be worth fighting over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

Maybe I'm the luckiest parent in the world, but, I think you're full of shit. Most of us actually like spending time with our kids and most kids are not throwing a lot of tantrums after 2 or 3. However, you can't drop a 5 year old in front of a computer and say 'learn kid'. The parent is going to be doing all of the teaching anyway, so why bother with 'virtual class' if the kids doesn't like it? The old fashioned way is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

Maybe I'm the luckiest parent in the world, but, I think you're full of shit. Most of us actually like spending time with our kids and most kids are not throwing a lot of tantrums after 2 or 3. However, you can't drop a 5 year old in front of a computer and say 'learn kid'. The parent is going to be doing all of the teaching anyway, so why bother with 'virtual class' if the kids doesn't like it? The old fashioned way is fine.

+1. Seriously, its bullsh*t to pretend that everything is hunkydory except that kids are at home and those spoiled pampered parents just don't know how to deal with their kids. I've been home with my kids plenty and sent them to school and no, they weren't throwing tantrums a lot at school. When they had problems, I heard about it. I would seriously question a K class where many kids are having tantrums regularly.

Stop pretending that remote K is just the same as K and that it's somehow developmentally appropriate for a child to sit in front of a screen all day and have "school" that way. It's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

Maybe I'm the luckiest parent in the world, but, I think you're full of shit. Most of us actually like spending time with our kids and most kids are not throwing a lot of tantrums after 2 or 3. However, you can't drop a 5 year old in front of a computer and say 'learn kid'. The parent is going to be doing all of the teaching anyway, so why bother with 'virtual class' if the kids doesn't like it? The old fashioned way is fine.

+1. Seriously, its bullsh*t to pretend that everything is hunkydory except that kids are at home and those spoiled pampered parents just don't know how to deal with their kids. I've been home with my kids plenty and sent them to school and no, they weren't throwing tantrums a lot at school. When they had problems, I heard about it. I would seriously question a K class where many kids are having tantrums regularly.

Stop pretending that remote K is just the same as K and that it's somehow developmentally appropriate for a child to sit in front of a screen all day and have "school" that way. It's not.

Oh really? Recent Topics is full of posts of parents complaining of kids biting, 3-year-olds screaming for hours, kids hitting them, and lots of lying + acting out.

All of this was stuff kindergarten+elementary teachers dealt with on the regular and parents ignored because it wasn't possible that their 'special snowflake' was being bad.

Guess a lot of parents got a wake-up call during the pandemic.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with the posters here?! This child is crying! He doesn’t appear to be screaming, he‘s literally sitting there with his little pencil, wiping tears with his shirt.

My (very well-behaved!) newly-turned six year old cried during break from distance learning last week. Not in front of the teacher, but in our bathroom, alone, quietly. I told him it was time to return to Zoom class (his fourth that morning), and he just asked when he could be done with school.

And fwiw, his teacher is amazing, and he is doing much better this week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

Maybe I'm the luckiest parent in the world, but, I think you're full of shit. Most of us actually like spending time with our kids and most kids are not throwing a lot of tantrums after 2 or 3. However, you can't drop a 5 year old in front of a computer and say 'learn kid'. The parent is going to be doing all of the teaching anyway, so why bother with 'virtual class' if the kids doesn't like it? The old fashioned way is fine.

+1. Seriously, its bullsh*t to pretend that everything is hunkydory except that kids are at home and those spoiled pampered parents just don't know how to deal with their kids. I've been home with my kids plenty and sent them to school and no, they weren't throwing tantrums a lot at school. When they had problems, I heard about it. I would seriously question a K class where many kids are having tantrums regularly.

Stop pretending that remote K is just the same as K and that it's somehow developmentally appropriate for a child to sit in front of a screen all day and have "school" that way. It's not.

Oh really? Recent Topics is full of posts of parents complaining of kids biting, 3-year-olds screaming for hours, kids hitting them, and lots of lying + acting out.

All of this was stuff kindergarten+elementary teachers dealt with on the regular and parents ignored because it wasn't possible that their 'special snowflake' was being bad.

Guess a lot of parents got a wake-up call during the pandemic.

Are you stupid? Or maybe developmentally delayed? Can't you understand that staying in social isolation for almost 6 months is taking a toll on children? Teachers don't have to deal with anything different than parents. If anything, teachers deal with a milder version of the typical child, but it is well know that children behave and regulate themselves better while with strangers or non-familiar people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes sense to me

The child is crying, so what? Young children cry at school in the beginning of the year because they feel overwhelmed; because they miss their mother; because they are among strangers.....

Now they are crying at home because they feel overwhelmed with DL; because they don't know the teacher/classmates; and because they are bored out of their minds and just want to go play/ride a bike/watch tv or whatever they have been regularly doing during summer and past years while at home.

The difference is that in the first scenario children eventually adapt and become comfortable with their teachers; start to appreciate school for the fun they can have there and friends they make. While in DL, nothing of that will happen and only the frustration and feeling of being overwhelmed will remain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my kid was crying and feeling frustrated I would not be interested in filming it to put on Twitter to make a political statement.

Seriously. What’s wrong with parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a good point. I noticed this back in April and May -- friends who weren't used to being home with their toddlers all day talking about how their 3-year-old was having trouble adjusting and seemed "off". But then when they'd describe the problems, I would quietly think to myself "That's just what my kid is like all the time..."

The people who have done one or two days of DL and are like "This is terrible, my kid hates it, this will never work" concern me. I'm very not excited about DL (my kids are 5 and 3, it's the pits) but give it, like, a minute.

It takes me at least six months to really settle in at a new job. Kids are actually so much more adaptable than adults and they will figure it out. All the pearl clutching is ridiculous.

Its the parents that are more frustrated for a pointless reason than the kids imo. They're used to not having to deal with kids and their emotional development, instead they foist that off on teachers.

There's a reason its called the 'Terrible Twos' - because the kids are still AT HOME at that point. Its also the Terrible Threes and Fours but by that point the kid is in pre-k or kindergarten and someone else's problem.

Amen to this.