Nanny gossiping

[Anonymous]

Our neighbors have two DCs the same age as ours, the kids see each other a lot as we’re in a pod together and the nannies host the play dates.
We like the parents and are friendly with them but we don’t see them a lot.
Their nanny keeps gossiping to our nanny as apparently they’ve sold their home and plan to move soon, which they haven’t shared with us.
Our nanny keeps asking me about it and I said that it’s none of my business to be speculating as to where they’re going or how their circumstances might have changed.
Should I mention to the other mom that her nanny is asking us about this or just stay out of it?

[Anonymous]

I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

OP / the other nanny wanted to know what we thought they’d sold their house for and if they’d made a profit or a loss on the sale.

[Anonymous]

I think they're going to gossip and if your friends think they would not gossip they're naive. Also, try to understand that this woman's job is at stake if they move. Have some compassion. She's trying to figure out if she's about to be laid off and whether she needs to look for a job.

[Anonymous]

The nanny is clearly worried that they sold because they can’t afford the house. That’s why she’s asking if it was a loss, because she’s worried about her job.

How nice for you that you don’t have to worry about such things. Imagine being the type of person who would report a scared nanny during a pandemic, which will most surely cause her to lose her job.

You are a terrible person and you’re lucky your kids have a nanny. Less exposure to you and your values/influence. Be better, look at yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

OP / the other nanny wanted to know what we thought they’d sold their house for and if they’d made a profit or a loss on the sale.

That's gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

OP / the other nanny wanted to know what we thought they’d sold their house for and if they’d made a profit or a loss on the sale.

How did you not know that your next door neighbor's house was for sale?

[Anonymous]

Isn’t you talking to the neighbor about what your nanny said their nanny said the same sort of gossiping? Isn’t you talking to your nanny about what the other nanny said gossiping?

[Anonymous]

So you want to gossip to your neighbor that their nanny gossiped to your nanny about them which she then in turn gossiped to you? Next time: “huh that’s interesting. Now about Larlo...”

[Anonymous]

If it’s not a secret, it’s not gossiping. Just ask your neighbor.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say anything to your neighbors, and if either nanny brought it up to me, I'd just change the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

OP / the other nanny wanted to know what we thought they’d sold their house for and if they’d made a profit or a loss on the sale.

That's gross.

Why is that gross? Everyone in a neighborhood wants to know what comparable houses sold for.


This is a really weird thread. I don’t know what the problem is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say anything to your neighbors, and if either nanny brought it up to me, I'd just change the subject.

Just clarifying. I mean about the price. I think it's okay to ask/mention to your neighbors you heard they are moving and will be sad to see them go.

[Anonymous]

Half the appeal of being a nanny is gossiping. I am sahm and (used to) watch them all pony up to one another and share details and complaints about their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a nanny telling another nanny that her employer is moving is gossiping. If I told my friend my company was moving HQ, that wouldn't be gossip, it would be me talking about my life.

OP / the other nanny wanted to know what we thought they’d sold their house for and if they’d made a profit or a loss on the sale.

That's gross.

Why is that gross? Everyone in a neighborhood wants to know what comparable houses sold for.


This is a really weird thread. I don’t know what the problem is.

And it’s public info, so it’s not like sharing a confidential secret.