Right or wrong not to go to a party at in-laws?
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Anonymous
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Early 60s here with additional COVID risk from AFib. Wife's family is pretty much Trumpers but occasionally tolerable. Party is for FILs 85th birthday-he's not doing well. Party will be both inside and outside. NOBODY in this family wears masks, even with infants and elderly people around.
Am I out of line for refusing to go? Wife says me wearing a mask is protection enough. I don't agree |
Anonymous
| I would definitely not go. |
Anonymous
| Yeah no way. Write a sincere note in a card. |
Anonymous
| No way. |
Anonymous
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Your wife shouldn’t go either.
But yeah, it would be stupid for you to go. |
Anonymous
| No way. Send a really nicely written card. Can always say doctor advises not to since not all will be wearing masks. If you don’t want to fib about it, message your doctor and ask and he or she will surely tell you they advise not going. |
Anonymous
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Oh my goodness. What is it that you older adults are not getting about a global pandemic? We are giving up travel, school, weddings and the economy mostly FOR YOU, and you refuse to stay home and sit out a few social events and holidays.
And if you do choose to be stupid and go, keep your ass out of the ER where my husband works. |
Anonymous
| Refusing? So much drama. How about you stand outside, 6 ft away, and greet your elderly not-doing-well Father in Law. In case it's the last time. |
Anonymous
| PP here. Don't accept food or drink, obviously. Stay just a few minutes. Going is not difficult. |
Anonymous
| No way. Stop by day before and get him something. |
Anonymous
| ^ this too. Greet him outside. Do something. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't go. The PP suggesting you stand 6 feet away is not considering people coming over to you.
I am a volunteer at an outdoor weekly event and back in March, the last time I went, I kept moving away from people, and people kept coming towards me, even when I'd hold up my hand and ask them to back up. You can't count on other people to respect your space. |
Anonymous
| I would go, not eat, stay outside, social distance and wear a mask. And then go home after an hour. If you think you can’t do that, stay home. |
Anonymous
| Go. Wear a mask. Stay outside the whole time. This isn't that hard. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely not. You should stay home and so should your wife. Send a nice card and a gift if you'd like. |