Will He Remember Me?

[Anonymous]

I cared for a baby on a daily basis from 7-13 mos.

Then the virus hit & I haven’t seen the child since mid-March.
The child’s parents now want me to care for the child again daily at the end of this month.

So my question is this:
If a child at thirteen mos. does not see a person until they are eighteen mos., how likely is it that the child will still remember the person?

The reason I am asking is because I requested a visit or two before I begin watching him again, yet his parents think the child will still remember me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cared for a baby on a daily basis from 7-13 mos.

Then the virus hit & I haven’t seen the child since mid-March.
The child’s parents now want me to care for the child again daily at the end of this month.

So my question is this:
If a child at thirteen mos. does not see a person until they are eighteen mos., how likely is it that the child will still remember the person?

The reason I am asking is because I requested a visit or two before I begin watching him again, yet his parents think the child will still remember me.

He might light up when he sees you, but if he’s talking he probably won’t remember your name.

[Anonymous]

He may be going through a stranger phase. He will adjust. And what is imprinted on his brain is a caring caregiver.

[Anonymous]

Nope, he won't remember you. You'll have to start from the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, he won't remember you. You'll have to start from the beginning.

NP. Based on our experiences with distant grandparents that we only see every 6 months, I disagree. I think there will be some familiarity there, although it may take a bit of time for him to warm up to you agsin.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't sweat this. He may not remember you, but he'll also warm up to you quickly if you are his caregiver. That's how 1 year olds are.

[Anonymous]

He might remember you, but he might not. No matter what, it will be okay! Just be as warm and caring as ever

[Anonymous]

Can the parents show him your photo, and talk to him about you by name? That might help refresh those memories before you show up in person. That’s what we did with grandparents , although on a more ongoing basis, and it definitely helped.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t worry OP. If anything he probably will remember your smell and voice more than perhaps your face. He will warm quickly.

[Anonymous]

There's a really good chance the baby won't remember you unless they have been showing photos etc. They are also at a stage where seperation anxiety can kick in. So it will definiately be a readjusment.

I think what you have requested is reasonable. If it's pay they are worried about, would you be willing to come in those days for free?

[Anonymous]

He may be shy at first because he's of an age for that, and because he may associate you with the departure of his parents. But the loving care you gave him will influence your relationship even if he doesn't consciously remember it.

[Anonymous]

Kids are a mystery to me sometimes! My kid remembers some things like for forever and other things she makes a face as if she hasn't heard of them before.

[Anonymous]

Have you gotten to FaceTime or Skype with him?
If yes, he will know you. If not, I could see it going either way.