Vacationing alone, or without spouse?

[Anonymous]

How often do you vacation without your spouse? When they don’t come do you take the kids? Go by yourself? With friends?

How do you feel about your arrangement?

The kids and I have much more time off than DH and they are a little older and easier. We are doing more without him. He’s okay with it. Kids and I don’t love it, but it’s better than staying home.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, esp if a workaholic spouse or argumentative one or one that can’t catch a kid safely ever. Plus the ones that need to eat 24/7, I cannot tell you how embarrassing traveling worth that has been. Butt of all jokes now.

[Anonymous]

Never. Married 24 years.

My parents never too separate vacations either.

I think separate beds and separate vacations spell trouble. I know I may be in the minority.

[Anonymous]

I do a girls trip once a year. Otherwise we vacation together.

[Anonymous]

I was going to say never, but I have done a few girls weekends and left the kids with my DH.

[Anonymous]

I am a teacher so I vacation without my spouse all the time. I am incredibly lucky to have lots of time off while he only gets three weeks. Works for both of us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How often do you vacation without your spouse? When they don’t come do you take the kids? Go by yourself? With friends?

How do you feel about your arrangement?

The kids and I have much more time off than DH and they are a little older and easier. We are doing more without him. He’s okay with it. Kids and I don’t love it, but it’s better than staying home.

My parents never did but my father could set work boundaries and was a real leader of the family, involved, active parent.

My spouse is not. We only vacation with extended family or others or I am ready to do everything if just us. He prefers to work and slate in Disney Dad time when and if he can. He has come days later for many holidays and vacations or now skips them entirely to “catch up on work” or “get ahead at work.”

[Anonymous]

1 x per year without kid

1-2 times with kids

People who never vacation without their spouse my stay together more but it’s clear there is something chronically wrong if you can never be away from your spouse. Of course you are not divorcing but it is also so unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

I vacation with DS and without DH usually at least once a year. (Pre-pandemic...). DH doesn’t like to travel and isn’t much fun on Vacation.

[Anonymous]

We vacation together though my husband might take one golf trip a year over a long weekend. A couple of times during periods when my husband was taking a new job and we were mostly apart for 4-6 months I took my kids on trips he didn't care for like Disney World. Every few years I go on a girls only trip but it's never as much fun as being with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Op, you have a life. If you want to go, go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We vacation together though my husband might take one golf trip a year over a long weekend. A couple of times during periods when my husband was taking a new job and we were mostly apart for 4-6 months I took my kids on trips he didn't care for like Disney World. Every few years I go on a girls only trip but it's never as much fun as being with my husband.

^^ Let me add that after six months of no vacations and being with my husband every night a few days with my GF's would be fun.

[Anonymous]

The thing you don't do is make a big deal about it.
And you don't go-on-and-on about the trip. Because no one wants to hear alot about a trip they weren't on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you have a life. If you want to go, go

Very insightful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How often do you vacation without your spouse? When they don’t come do you take the kids? Go by yourself? With friends?

How do you feel about your arrangement?

The kids and I have much more time off than DH and they are a little older and easier. We are doing more without him. He’s okay with it. Kids and I don’t love it, but it’s better than staying home.

My parents never did but my father could set work boundaries and was a real leader of the family, involved, active parent.

My spouse is not. We only vacation with extended family or others or I am ready to do everything if just us. He prefers to work and slate in Disney Dad time when and if he can. He has come days later for many holidays and vacations or now skips them entirely to “catch up on work” or “get ahead at work.”

Does this bother your kids?