Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the guy, depends on the dog. The vast, vast majority of time, no I would not have dated/married someone with a pitbull, particularly as I wanted children.
However, there are some pitbulls that are great with children, and some that are so well trained that I would feel comfortable with them, and some owners that are beyond responsible. I'd need all three to consider it. However, I would also make it clear that once his pitbull had lived out his (hopefully long and happy life), our next dog would not be a pit, as I was not interested in the kind of commitment it takes to range such a strong and potentially dangerous dog responsibly.
For example - a friend adopted a pitbull from another friend who died. That dog was so unbelievably safe. Not only was she trained from puppyhood to be extremely calm, obedient, and safe, some of her training was even designed around people's feelings - for example, she specifically kept her nose/mouth away from strangers. When the doorbell rang, she would bark twice, then walk away from the door to a little mat about 10 feet away and sit (so as not to ever startle or scare a new arrival) and then only come when called. She was also wonderfully sweet and a great pet. But I think that's rare and takes a level of pet-training commitment that few can muster.
Carolyn Hax, the advice columnist, FWIW, is a supporter of not judging by breed and has in fact posted pictures of her very young toddlers snuggling with her ex-husband's pitbull.
Lol, I’ll take my advice from my ER doc uncle who sees people come in with dog bites, most of them from their own dogs. Carolyn Hax shouldn’t be your source of wisdom.