All the parents saying they can’t afford childcare - what did they do before K?

[Anonymous]

Well LCPS is now officially in the same boat.

[Anonymous]

It’s amazing to see what sheltered, privileged bubbles people like OP live in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

Don’t act like an idiot. A pandemic is not something you plan for years before it happens.

[Anonymous]

Some of us have kids in private school. You think it's confusing to say I can't afford tuition and childcare? With COVID-19 hybrid options some will be paying for both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of us have kids in private school. You think it's confusing to say I can't afford tuition and childcare? With COVID-19 hybrid options some will be paying for both.

Most good private schools are providing in-person instruction.

The Avenues in Manhattan has leased an entire new campus in the Hamptons for their students to get in-person learning.

https://www.thedailybeast.com/avenues-the-famously-expensive-school-sets-up-in-the-hamptons-for-elite-kids-fleeing-covid-in-nyc?ref=author

Avenues, the expensive private school based in Manhattan that was famously attended by Suri Cruise and counts the children of tycoons, rock stars, and Oscar-winners among its students, is setting up a 3,500-square-foot campus in the Hamptons to cater to children whose parents have fled the city for the salubrious comfort of their beachside homes in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The for-profit school, established in 2012 by a group of private investors, and which charges around $56,000 per annum, is reportedly seeking a space of some 3,500 square feet in East Hampton, New York, to operate as a new “studio” campus, the East Hampton Star reports. Fees for students attending the new Hamptons campus will be $48,000, less than the $56,400 charged at the Manhattan site, due partly to lack of extracurricular and sports activities. The campus is currently accepting students in fifth through 11th grades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

Nobody actually thinks "you should have planned for the first pandemic in a century before having kids." Good run but I'm calling troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

Nobody actually thinks "you should have planned for the first pandemic in a century before having kids." Good run but I'm calling troll.

DP. Nope. We all just think this is what parents should be preparing for.

You castigate singles and childfree individuals for their choices and being selfish. Meanwhile you want the world to pay for your precious babies daycare and sitters during a pandemic because...why? That seems the more selfish concept to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

Nobody actually thinks "you should have planned for the first pandemic in a century before having kids." Good run but I'm calling troll.

DP. Nope. We all just think this is what parents should be preparing for.

You castigate singles and childfree individuals for their choices and being selfish. Meanwhile you want the world to pay for your precious babies daycare and sitters during a pandemic because...why? That seems the more selfish concept to me.

You’re just making $hit up as you go along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Or do they actually mean they don’t want to pay for childcare? I’m genuinely confused/curious. I totally get that it sucks, but how is it any different than the daycare years?

That's like saying that you should be able to pay for anything you've ever paid for, for as long as you both shall live. I mean why can't you pay for college every year? Why can't you pay for braces every year? Why can't you pay your maternity bills every year? You paid it once and didn't die so why not keep it up?

People pay for daycare with the expectation that it is temporary. Also, choices for childcare of school age children are very limited.

Tough. You should have thought of this before having children.

Nobody actually thinks "you should have planned for the first pandemic in a century before having kids." Good run but I'm calling troll.

DP. Nope. We all just think this is what parents should be preparing for.

You castigate singles and childfree individuals for their choices and being selfish. Meanwhile you want the world to pay for your precious babies daycare and sitters during a pandemic because...why? That seems the more selfish concept to me.

You’re just making $hit up as you go along.

There's threads every year of people hating on people without kids but I'm making things up huh?

When I hear people don't have kids, I think it must be harder to have meaning in their lives

When you die, there is nothing left of you in the universe except the memories your friends and (surviving) family have of you

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/714640.page

[Anonymous]

Nanny here and I feel your pain people. I'm single and make a living wage but I haven't been able to afford health insurance in several years. I can't bilk the wonderful people who employ me to pay for it. Sometimes people say well if you wanted to get rich you shouldn't have chose a profession in childcare. Kind of like some people shouldn't have too many kids. Personally I like children in general and believe they should be allowed to live their best lives but financially this country doesn't encourage that right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us have kids in private school. You think it's confusing to say I can't afford tuition and childcare? With COVID-19 hybrid options some will be paying for both.

Most good private schools are providing in-person instruction.

The Avenues in Manhattan has leased an entire new campus in the Hamptons for their students to get in-person learning.

https://www.thedailybeast.com/avenues-the-famously-expensive-school-sets-up-in-the-hamptons-for-elite-kids-fleeing-covid-in-nyc?ref=author

Avenues, the expensive private school based in Manhattan that was famously attended by Suri Cruise and counts the children of tycoons, rock stars, and Oscar-winners among its students, is setting up a 3,500-square-foot campus in the Hamptons to cater to children whose parents have fled the city for the salubrious comfort of their beachside homes in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The for-profit school, established in 2012 by a group of private investors, and which charges around $56,000 per annum, is reportedly seeking a space of some 3,500 square feet in East Hampton, New York, to operate as a new “studio” campus, the East Hampton Star reports. Fees for students attending the new Hamptons campus will be $48,000, less than the $56,400 charged at the Manhattan site, due partly to lack of extracurricular and sports activities. The campus is currently accepting students in fifth through 11th grades.

I don't mean to be snarky,but the Avenues is not an elite school. It's for rich dummies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of us have kids in private school. You think it's confusing to say I can't afford tuition and childcare? With COVID-19 hybrid options some will be paying for both.

Most good private schools are providing in-person instruction.

The Avenues in Manhattan has leased an entire new campus in the Hamptons for their students to get in-person learning.

https://www.thedailybeast.com/avenues-the-famously-expensive-school-sets-up-in-the-hamptons-for-elite-kids-fleeing-covid-in-nyc?ref=author

Avenues, the expensive private school based in Manhattan that was famously attended by Suri Cruise and counts the children of tycoons, rock stars, and Oscar-winners among its students, is setting up a 3,500-square-foot campus in the Hamptons to cater to children whose parents have fled the city for the salubrious comfort of their beachside homes in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The for-profit school, established in 2012 by a group of private investors, and which charges around $56,000 per annum, is reportedly seeking a space of some 3,500 square feet in East Hampton, New York, to operate as a new “studio” campus, the East Hampton Star reports. Fees for students attending the new Hamptons campus will be $48,000, less than the $56,400 charged at the Manhattan site, due partly to lack of extracurricular and sports activities. The campus is currently accepting students in fifth through 11th grades.

This isn't an elite school. This is an expensive school for absent rich parents who want to pass their kids off on someone else and then their live in nanny picks them up and spends the night with them while parents party. It is not academically intense and of course they'll stay open because they literally serve to care for rich kids of absent parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You suck it up for the daycare years

But they can’t “suck it up” for a once in 100 years global pandemic? This too shall pass.

It will pass, but when?

I’d be willing to bet by fall 2021 school will be 5 days again, if not before.

And you think it’s ok to have substandard education for a full calendar year, in addition to the quarter (or more for some schools) that they just had? No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You suck it up for the daycare years

But they can’t “suck it up” for a once in 100 years global pandemic? This too shall pass.

You’re so damn privileged. Do you remember that millions of people have filed for unemployment? Many Americans can’t “just suck it up.”

The unemployed are watching their own kids and don’t need care though.

They’re trying to watch kids (full time job) and find a job (full time job). It doesn’t work well to combine the two.

A lot of people are working the same amount or more for less money.