How many kids would you have if money were no object? What would you spend it on?

[Anonymous]

With or without money my answer is the same. 3
I want special 1:1 moments with my kids. I feel like large families lose some of that.

[Anonymous]

3. I came from a family of 3. I am single, and can only afford one.

I would focus on hiring household help, not childcare help. I would quit my job and spend all my time with my kids and pets.

[Anonymous]

Well, it isn’t really money that’s holding me back, but I’d have 4-5. I have 2. If neither spouse had to work, we could travel the world with our kids.

[Anonymous]

I had the most amazing pregnancies. I was out horseback riding on my due dates with both. Zero symptoms. I almost felt like it was my calling in life strangely enough. I also had enough milk for twins and loved everything about infants.

I’d love 5 if money were no object. As it were between IVF, unpaid maternity leave and daycare costs we’re hoping we can save enough for a third.

[Anonymous]

Surrogate and a nanny or two; private schools all around.

Easy

[Anonymous]

I have one and have been trying for #2 for 5 years unsuccessfully. If money were no object I would have 2 but I would need a donor egg and a surrogate.

[Anonymous]

I have 2. I don’t think there’s anything that convince me to do pregnancy/newborn stuff again, and I actually had pretty easy pregnancies and newborns. I might think about it if college were more affordable. Also if I had a 3rd, I’d want a cleaning lady and maybe someone to cook, and we’d need bigger cars. I can tell you one thing: daycare/childcare costs are NOT a factor in how many children I have. I stay home now and I’d want to stay home with a third too.

[Anonymous]

I have one and would love to adopt another child but its so expensive. So I would adopt a sibling pair/one or more kids and be able to afford their therapies and any special needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two. We would have four if our income was higher. No nanny, just lots of things that would buy us time:
- house closer to work
- reliable cars that I don't repair or maintain
- landscaping service
- new appliances that I don't repair
- someone to clean the house several times a week when we aren't here
- laundry done
- Nice food prepped for me to cook or already cooked and ready to serve
- airplane tickets instead of driving for hours
- an accountant and lawyer to deal with stuff

I like these ideas. Dream house walking distance from work. Maybe some design help and a professional organizer, periodically updating spaces for the kids as they grow. Housekeeper/maid. Personal trainer or yoga teacher who does private lessons at home. With all that and a night nanny for the first year, we might have another one (now have 2). Also a great nanny who drives.

Although, as I write this, I'm not 100% sure because I feel like we have a lot of intimacy with our 2 that regardless of the time opened up by all this help, we might not have with 3. You still only have two eyes and two hands. Some of that slow time you have with 2 must surely get speeded up a lot with 3.

[Anonymous]

I would not have any more. I hate, hate, hate being pregnant and everything that goes with it. I would adopt 2, for a total of 4. I would hire staff to make day-to-day life a little easier. We would travel and learn as much we can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have three under six and think I may be done. I hate being pregnant, constantly tired and sore and grouchy, and it makes me a worse mom. But if we had infinite money, and I had a full-time nanny who would also tidy, cook, etc., and I could hand her a baby and go off to play with the big kids or take a nap or whatever? Hell yeah, I’d have more. Maybe five.

Whoop de do, wouldn't we all!

Um, no, said many people here. We wanted two and had two. Money isn't an object and even if we were ten times richer we wouldn't want any more kids.

[Anonymous]

2. I have no desire for more. It's not a money issue.

I have 1. I may not be able to have another, though. (For non-money-related reasons).

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids and it is our maximum. Money is non issue. I’m a SAHM with lots of help. DH has only so much free time to share with us. We are insanely busy already juggling 3 kids. Can’t imagine adding another to the mix.

We outsource most housework so we spend all our free time with kids and friends.

[Anonymous]

I'd have the one that I have now. It's not money that prevents more children, it's time, energy, and physical stability.